I'm in the middle of a bad situation, and I know that if I don't do something about it or remove myself from the situation, it will lead down the road to major panic again. My husband quit smoking about a month ago, which in itself is great. The problem is that when he isn't smoking he is impossible to deal with, he's extremely short tempered, crabby and either is mean to me or ignores me. A month ago, everything between us was wonderful, now it's a total mess. I'm already starting to get more anxious when he's around, and I'm worried.
He quit once before, about 3 years ago, and didn't smoke for 9 months. It was the worst nine months of my life! I had hoped that in time it would get better, but it only got worse as time went by. It got so bad that I ended up with constant panic attacks, was afraid to be alone, didn't leave the house...all the usual garbage that goes along with this disorder. I ended up completely falling apart and it took years and alot of therapy to get back to being able to live again. So, obviously I am terrified that all of this will happen again. I just got my life back together, just finished school and am looking forward to taking the national exam to become of CCA. I don't want to lose all that I've gained.
I smoke too, but have never tried to quit, so I don't know what he is going through or how to help him or what to suggest he do to help himself. I was wondering if anyone else has either gone through this themselves, or has quit smoking and knows what he's going through and could offer some advice as to what I can do to help him...or to help myself to get through this without falling apart again.