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   Posted 5/20/2009 1:59 PM (GMT -6)   

I have been debating for the last few months about whether to leave for college or not. I'll be a transfer student, but since I am still a little behind it will probably take my roughly 2.5 more years to graduate instead of the traditional 2. I feel kinda bad making my parents pay and I have to take out all these loans for extra time there. Sometimes I think I can finish somewhere local, but I am truly so unhappy here. But I am afraid to leave my family, work, and boyfriend.

I'm so torn. Do you think I should just take out the loans, take my time there and go? Because I feel like I'll have to rush myself and have heavy courseloads to finish in time. If you were me, what would you do?

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Date Joined Mar 2009
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   Posted 5/20/2009 3:46 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi Taryn,

For one it is your life. You will need to sit down and figure out what you actually want to do. Would you benifit from going to an out of state college? Do you see your life fulfilled with your current boyfriend? Do you see yourself finishing school and doing what you want to do? Or does it feel more of a pain in the rear?

Now with those few questions answered. You can decide what is best for yourself. If you will benifit more from an out of state college then one local then yes you should go. If you see yourself happy and content with your current boyfriend and things are going great. It might last through you being gone. If you feel that your case load will be hard to handle. You most likely wouldn't finish and stress levels and such will be way to much and give up.

At some point in your life you will leave your family to live your life. It is very hard and scary. Sad at the same time. But yet a HUGE mile stone that everyone at some point must make. I have a 16 year old daughter that wants to go to college in California. It will be very hard for her to leave but I will encourage her as much as I can so she is successful and happy with her choice of professions.

If your not happy. Life is not happy. You have to make the choices for yourself. I can't make them for you. YOU have to do it.
So what if your behind a little. You just have to work a little harder. Which will make you feel even better about yourself. You have over come the odds!
But remember this is your future. Your life. You have to live it. Not your parents, boyfriend, friends etc. You do. Never compromise your happiness for someone else's. It leads to a very boring and resentful life. With a lot of should have could have and dang wish I had thoughts.

Yes I understand the worry about money. But it is just that money. It has no feelings. It can only control you if you let it. Loans can be paid back. And I'm sure your parents are more then willing to help you be successful. Take the chance. It will be worth it.
My hubby wishes everyday that he had finished school. He makes good money now. But would be making twice as much doing what he does already if he had his degree.
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