I hear you! Confrontational situations trigger my anxiety too. This one sounds especially bad for you because you weren't expecting it at all. All I can suggest at first is to try to let it go. The person you're describing sounds like lots of unpleasant issues are at work, and he doesn't deserve any more of your thoughts or for you to feel bad about
yourself on his account.
Anyone would have been shaken up to be verbally accosted like that, so give yourself credit for being out and about
, defeating your limitations. Be patient in accepting that jerks are out there, but they're few and far between, usually, and that you can choose to go out and do what you want based on what's good for you, not on whether you'll bump into one of those creeps.
You've got a lot going on, especially with the job search, and you did behave in the appropriate way by asking someone to note the needs of those around them. That sounds brave and like a triumph over anxiety to me. Shame on that guy for being so obnoxious.
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