Yes you are in the right place and welcome. As I read your post I realized that I carry anger and feel like a victim too. You posted " refuse to carry a painful and debilitating grudge for the rest of you life." I think I am in your boat and have not figured out how to let go of my anger and feeling like a victim also. For completely different reasons of course.
I have depression and anxiety and was dx 27 years ago. Up until a bit over 3 years ago I did very well with occasional therapy and some medication tweaks.
In November of 2005 I had a huge melt-down. I was in a Management position and making very good money. I had worked for the same company for 26 years. I could see no way out so I took early retirement and started to draw on my pension. My boss who also claimed to be a friend was well aware of what I was going through and even drove me home from work one day when I was unable to complete the day. The company accepted my resignation and no one ever offered me assisstance through our EAP, or mentioned that I had short term and long term disability.
Oh yes, I was offered a tea party with a cake for my big send off that they knew I was sad about.
I was not thinking well at the time but later realized that I could have very easily used my benefits instead of buring 2 years of my pension plan................no one stepped forward to help me. I had an exemplary record.
Of course like many others my pension fund lost half of it's value....................I feel angry and cheated. I feel like people who were supposed to be friends just turned their backs and walked away as no one knew I had depression until I told them what I was going through. Their life moved on while I am stuck in anger.
Reading back over this I appear to be bitter
I am with you . We have to lose these feelings.
Let us both hope the troups know how to help us let go of the victim role.
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