Going to the new therapist for 2nd appt today

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   Posted 6/25/2009 9:32 AM (GMT -6)   
Hey everyone hope all is well! I go to my 2nd appt with my new therapist today a little nervous I've got some questions to ask her. Last time she acted like she didn't believe what I was telling her or something and I want to confront it today before we go any further. So i'm a nervous wreck but I know it has to be done. Sometimes I get signals mixed up cause of my personality but I need someone who will listen and be there for me. But i'm very anxious about it. Also i'm still depressed yesterday evening was pretty rough my husband has gotten where he just wants it to be over as well as I do but I can't snap my fingers and the anxiety/panic/depression is gone I wish I could. So he's kinda gotten where he ignores me or tells me smart ellicly to go back to the hospital since they helped me so much. He's also gotten where if he wants something and I don't give him his way he'll stop talking to me so that's stressing me out really bad I just don't know what to do anymore. Any advice?....April

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   Posted 6/25/2009 9:59 AM (GMT -6)   
I'm so sorry about everything. I hope that your appt goes well as I'm sure it will. Do talk with her about how you felt the last appt, she will understand. I too get mixed signals from people just as I did yest at my appt. but I think that it was just me, but nevertheless it should be addressed. And about your husband, I can relate. Mine gets upset and starts to ignore my emotions and feelings about the whole panic disorder, he feels its something I should be able to snap out of that I just don't want to....but they unfortunley do not understand. All we can do is pray for them to understand and give support. I hope that you have a superfantasticfabolous day! Let me know how it goes, okay

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   Posted 6/25/2009 10:36 AM (GMT -6)   

Glad to hear you have another therapy appt today. Good idea about first discussing your feelings about the last appt, but also talk about how you can help your husband understand what you are going thru. Good luck!

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   Posted 6/25/2009 3:03 PM (GMT -6)   
Seriously, your husband needs to educate himself on this disorder. He's not helping. I know it can be frustrating for the partner of someone with anxiety issues, but they need to be reassuring and positive. His attitude is not helping.

I remember my husband telling me that my anxiety issues were hard to take sometimes. HE thinks it's hard to take? Try being on this side. It's no picnic. You have other supporters here and don't let him get to you. Often men get upset because they can't help us or don't know how. So, they get angry.

Hang in there and do what you have to do to get better! Don't sit on the sidelines, help yourself.
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   Posted 6/25/2009 3:34 PM (GMT -6)   

I hope your 2nd session of therapy goes well it is important to have a good relationship with your therapist be honest and tell them how you are feeling, I went through some CAT which is similar to CBT and held a lot back and found once I stopped the therapy I slipped back into the cycle of anxiety and depression really quick. Sorry to hear your husband does not understand your anxiety issues it is hard for people to understand unless they have been through mental illness them selfs, I have lots of people in my life who struggle to understand what im going through which is frustrating but I also have people who really do understand and help me a lot such as my parents and members here on healingwell.

Take Care


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   Posted 6/25/2009 6:54 PM (GMT -6)   
It is very hard for others to understand.

But I would not put up with childish acts. If he can not and will not support you when you need him. Its time for a serious talk.

When I hear stories of people's partners being so cruel and unsupported it just digs into my heart and I want to so much give them a good yelling. He needs to be educated on what your going through. Take him on your next doc visit and see if maybe him being there first hand he can get a clue on what is going on. If that fails get some pamphlets that might help him also.

If he is still in denial the next step is yours. You will need to do what is best for you.

I don't mean to be rude, crude or uncaring. Because I do care that YOU get better. You are the one who is going through this. And it to me feels like you are alone in this at home. You need his support. 100%. Not 5% and only when he wants to.

Ok I'm ending now before I get to "worked" up...

Have a good day at the visit. Keep everything on the table. And keep us informed!

((((BIG HUGS))))

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