Welcome to HealingWell. I am Kitt. Let me see if I can give you some advise. :)
A little bit of jealousy when you are in a relationship is normal and shows that you care about the other person. Letting jealousy run through every aspect and interaction in your relationship is not healthy. Even if there is nothing going on, your jealousy could end up pushing away your significant other. They will feel like you do not trust them. Feelings of mistrust do not make a strong relationship. There is a way to deal with jealousy in a relationship. It takes some determination and work on your part, but you can get past your feelings of jealousy.
Examine why you get jealous of your significant other. Look back over past times when you got extremely jealous. Was it the fact that that he was looking at or talking to another woman or maybe it was the fact that he did not have time to see you. To be able to deal with jealousy in a relationship, you need to know what triggers jealousy in you.
Do not let your feelings of jealousy go to extremes. Often times when we feel jealousy in a relationship, we let the feelings build and make more out of a situation then there really was. Every action that your significant other makes can have multiple meanings.
What you may see as a slight towards you, your significant other may not even think will affect you. Try to examine the actions of your partner from many angles so that you will realize that you are blowing your jealousy out of proportion.
Get all of the information on the actions in your relationship that is causing you to become jealous. Many times your jealousy in your relationship can lead to false accusations. This will drive your significant other away from your relationship. To truly know if your jealousy is warranted, you need to do some research and look into why the actions that your partner took were made.
Keep the lines of communication open with your significant other. Communication is important in all relationships. When you are jealous of your partner, being able to open up and discuss it will help to settle your feelings. With an open line of communication, your significant other can tell you why he did what he did.
I would also like to suggest that you work on your own self esteem as it feels to me that you may be a bit down in how you feel about yourself. You are a worthy and wonderful person and trust that you deserve a loving relationship.
Take care and hugs to you,
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