He has known something wasn't right since he was 5 years old, but not until he was in his 20's was he able to find out what it was. He is now in his 40's. He has told his family, which have their own anxiety issues, and some close friends, but not any of his co-workers. I think he thinks they will think less of him.
I know what you mean about depression, it's like a dirty word. I also know what you mean about if people can't see an injury or pain, I have Lyme disease and people don't even think it's a real disease!
I am so sorry to hear about your Dad. I know you can understand my worry, I really felt like my husband was headed in that same direction. I DO support him and act as his sounding board, but that is a one way street. I don't Mother him, or push things on him, the books and Dr. appt was 4 years ago when he was "the worst it's ever been" his words, and really on the verge of a nervous breakdown. Now I just am there to listen when he needs to talk about it. I have to admit that it is emotionally draining and at this time in my own life I just don't have it in me any longer, I am not as strong as I used to be, or maybe I have just been worn down by it all. What he doesn't seem to see is that his anxiety affects not only himself, but me and our son.
I know what you mean, but his Mom is the same way. They both would rather take a pill than deal with the issues. His Mom has engaged in self medicating which is scary.
Thank You all for your responses,