anxiety and guilt after sex

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   Posted 11/4/2009 1:43 PM (GMT -7)   
I am 29 and for some reason tend to feel guilty and then my anxiety starts acting up and I feel so lost and disgusted with myself.  I recently got intimate with a friend of mine.  I feel like I've had too many partners in the last year.  Even though I tried to only have sex within a relationship....I get this feeling of guilt and then the anxiety starts.  I feel disgusted with myself right now and I get anxious just thinking about what i did.  I hate this feeling.  I can't get in to see my therapist but right now I feel lost and alone.  Can anyone help?

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   Posted 11/4/2009 4:48 PM (GMT -7)   
I'm sorry that you are feeling this way. I am not preaching, believe me, but it sounds like you could resolve your anxiety by changing your behavior. I went through a little phase like that myself in college until I got to a point where I knew I didn't want to go down that road anymore. I was also feeling guilty and unhappy with myself. looking back, I think it had a lot to do with me being insecure. I was looking for positive reinforcement in the wrong places, know what I mean? I suggest that you make up your mind to live differently. Put the past behind you, it's never too late to change. Find something else to do that makes you feel good. Volunteer, exercise, go out with your friends, read, whatever. Just my opinion. Hope it helps.

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   Posted 11/5/2009 6:52 AM (GMT -7)   
I have to agree with Liz/Paniccu on this one. . . The only way we can get better is to eliminate the things that are stressing us out. Just take it one day at a time, and maybe you should call back to your therapists office and see if there is somebody that is taking care of his/her patients while away :)

Good luck and take care now!

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   Posted 11/9/2009 9:04 AM (GMT -7)   
I've been experiencing something very similar.. but not quite exactly the same. I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years and 8 months. We used to have sex when we were younger and then decided that we needed to wait until we were married as we got a little older and I suppose more mature? I'm not quite sure, but we mutually decided that thats what was best for us, and what God wanted us to do. Ultimately though, I think it's pretty much because we had a pregnancy scare once and definitely do not want that to happen because I'm 18 and he's 19. I mean we also knew that at the time we were MUCH too young to be having sex. Well now still have sex, just not traditional sex ya know, and I used to love it. Anyways, no need for details but now I am scared to do anything sexual. I'm not sure why. It just happened about 2 days ago. I'm scared to do anything, almost like I'm scared of it inducing a panic attack or it will make me hallucinate, or that he is going to change suddenly while we are together. Any ideas on how to resolve that problem? I would like to relate those experiences to relaxation and stress relieving, not the other way around.
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