Hi need help and welcome to the HW anxiety/panic forum. My first thought is you need to focus on the here and now and quit comparing the present to the past. There is an old saying I have always liked, "You can't move forward, if you are always looking in the rearview mirror". What I am trying to say is let the past be the past and let things with your current boyfriend run their own course. Don't put him in the same category as the last guy. Let him be his own person and love him for who he is, not who you are afraid he will turn out to be.
Are there any therapists you can talk to at your school? That might be a good place to start to help you move forward with less anxiety.
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Crohn's Disease for over 34 years. Currently on Asacol, Prilosec, Estrace, Prinivil, Diltiazem, Percoset prn for pain, Zofran, Phenergan, Probiotics, Calcium, Vit D, and Xanax prn. Resections in 2002 & 2005. Also diagnosed w/ Fibromyalgia, Osteoarthritis, & Anxiety. Currently my Crohns is in remission, but my joints are going crazy!
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