Anxiety over girlfriend's relationship or lack there of, and my stuff

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   Posted 1/14/2010 1:24 PM (GMT -7)   
I for one have been having a tremendous amount of stress this month and it started on the 4th of January 2010. I am on housing assistance and they send me a second letter telling me my son had to give them a copy of his Washington State ID and they needed my birth certificate. Ok so finally 2 days ago we got his WA state ID. One down. I'm just waiting on my birth cirtificate. You can not even imagain how much running around I've been doing to get all the stuff I needed to do just the two little things that should be so easy. NOT! The DMV place doesn't make anything easy anymore, plus my birth record is in Alaska. I hope that gets here soon. I faxed it over to them. Then come to find out my insurance will only pay for my Diabetes strips and lancetes if I only check myself once a day, because I'm on Metformin and not insuline. I was checking my blood sugars 3 times a day. What kind of the h---l crap is that?! mad mad mad
Then this woman friend I've know over 21 years. Her and her man just broke up after a 6 year relationship around Christmas.. I just don't know what to do for her but listen. She says she's going ----------- him and this other chick and ----------- herself. I about fell off my bed when I heard that. I feel like I'm about ready to have a nervous break down and heart attack and curl up into a fetal position all at the same time.  This morning she calls me at 8:50am at least I was up, getting ready for work. She told me that he came in and took her jewlery and a few other things, but you know she did some damage to things that ment alot to him to. I figure is this way. If you are going to do some damage and play dirty don't turn around and say "OH I own you this and that because I cut is up or burned it."  I don't know if I should feel sorry for both of them or worried. All I know is I'm irritated with her because she won't take the house and garage key back from him. Oh my God! I told her to call the cops but she won't do it. I don't know what to do and she's my friend and I really don't want to piss her off too much more than she is already. But I am really going to have to tell her at some point how I feel. [ I don't have a man in my life and that's just the way I like it.]
Her and I had a long talk for about 2 hours just the other night. Then I couldn't sleep that night. Then she calls me at 6am right after I take another sleeping pill at 5AM. OMG! Well I finally got some sleep between 6:30AM and 9:10am that day (Tuesday). That morning I had to get my son's birth certificate thank God that he was born in the same city as where we live.
Then I'm trying to move us, my son and I, into a nice quiet place. I might have found one such place (maybe). And I'm not getting paid like I'm suppose to at work. Now that's really pissing me off. mad cry shakehead
Talk to me people.

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   Posted 1/14/2010 3:42 PM (GMT -7)   
Good Afternoon Hara,

It does sound to me like you have issues with your current situation but I think if you reread your post you will see that you are taking on anxiety that belongs to other people.........your girlfriend ! She needs to take care of herself and I would like to suggest that she respect your privacy and not be calling your home with her rants and ravings in the early hours of the mornings as you need to take care of you.

Jumping through hoops to get paper work required for certain things is just the nature of the game and please do take time for a big deep breath and know it will get taken care of.

As far as the diabetes, do you need a Physician's order for the glucometer testing equipment? I am not sure how your insurance works?

JMHO, but I would put my son and myself first right now and stay out of any conflicts with other friend's issues. I think your anxiety will decrease if your not tangled in the nasty web that others weave.

I wish you peace and hope you get things squared away soon.

Take care,


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   Posted 1/14/2010 4:26 PM (GMT -7)   
i BELIEVE kitt said it all and i totally agree..i wish you all the best my anxiety goes sky high as does my depression when everyone in my family or a long time gf of mine pulls me or tries to pull me in the middle..i hv to look after me first so i can help my anxiety/panic/depression...lyn
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   Posted 1/14/2010 5:01 PM (GMT -7)   
Thanks you two. I haven't been on here in a while, but I just had to let it out somewhere. I really hope she gets her co-dependency issues straightend out. It's not that I don't like talking to her but I've never known her to be this way, so it's all knew to me.  Oh yes the stress of my own stuff is doing not so wonderful things to my body. But I'm breathing one breathe at a time.
As for the phone calls she's ok with that for now. But if she gets too much for me to handle I will have to do some tough love on her and of course she won't call me for a few but I can handle that.

Post Edited (Hara) : 1/14/2010 5:06:41 PM (GMT-7)

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