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   Posted 1/21/2010 2:49 PM (GMT -7)   

Hi Everyone,


I need a major advise in my life right now, I ‘m 27 years old married to a 47 years old man.

We have been married for last 5 ½ years now and I had 2 step boys ( 14 & 17+ now) from my husband ex- wife , ..that I have been taking care of.

The children were badly spoiled when I got married and I tried my best to make them good in everything but they were just too stubborn. Now recently I had a baby boy and my life suddenly took a new turn, where all my anxiety and depression was gone. But recently the elder step son starting giving us a lot og hard time, even during my pregnancy he was just creating unpleasantness in the house.


Now that it became so worst that every time we scold him, he starting abusing us or became very disrespectful. Not only that his mother also got involved and made the situation worst. She while having an argument with my husband said, how come he got spoiled in your custody and when my husband told her that he was already spoiled in her custody time …………..and she gave him a reply back in anger that “ THAT WOMEN YOU HAVE IN YOUR HOUSE AND THAT CHID WHICH YOU JUST HAD SHOULD GET INSECT IN THEIR BODY “.


After all that what happened I have been so angry and depressed that , I don’t want to take care of her kids anymore, all these years I took care of them as their real mother , did everything from my pure heart and showed all my good concern for them. All this was just for my husband that he doesn’t suffer without his kids. But now I’m so fed up of all the nonsense going on .


We have already decided to send the older boy to his mother but I don’t even want his you second son also. I want that their own mother take of them and see how it feels to handle teenager, as she is so thankless that she had the audacity to says something so bad for me and my baby who is just 2 months old.

How dare is said that and thought that I will still keep her children and will raise them still.


But when I asked my husband to send him also , he said that he will never do that and will give up on me but not his second son.


I really want to live my life now, I had my own baby after 5 year because I was taking care of his children and now I want to live my life peacefully and happily with no issue in my life.


I sometime get the feeling that I should leave him as I will never be happy after all these years I was in depression and I don’t want to go through that again.


Pls advice what should I do , stay with him ?? leave him ?? pls


I’m very helpless…………cry cry cry cry

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   Posted 1/21/2010 5:24 PM (GMT -7)   

It feels to me like you are in a situational depressive state and your anxiety is coming from all that is going on in your life. It is very difficult to live life in turmoil.

Wondering if you have ever thought of seeing a therapist for just you or if you want to try to save the marriage then perhaps a marriage counselor?

I am in therapy and it is truly a good thing to have someone who can help you recognize what the real issues are.

I hope you have some support people in your life, friends and family. Do lean on them to help you work through your problems as well as coming here and sharing your feelings.

Gentle Hugs to you,

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