boyfriend anxiety problems. please help asap

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   Posted 2/25/2010 8:00 PM (GMT -7)   
confused me and my boyfriend have been going out for over 6 months now. we are fine together and are usually happy. i recently started going to counsiling because i have anxiety and i have jealousy and depression issues. well my boyfriend has a best friend who was a girl. and i had issues with that. he used to like her a tiny bit last year but never dated or anything like that. things got to the point inside of me where i finally told him it was him being friend with her or it was him being my boyfriend. after a couple days,,,he picked me of course...but was not happy about it. my anxiety and fear of being lied to, (not to mention major trust issues) urged me to ask him day by day if he had talked to this girl. or if she had contacted him. finally, (after looking at my boyfriends facebook, ((its ok, he has given me his password and said i could look anytime)) i found he had messaged her. the only contents of this message were " :( " so it wasnt anything i got upset over. she messaged him something about how they couldnt be friends anymore. and then he asked her if he could explain his story. well long story short. i HAD to ask my boyfriend why he had messaged her. we ended up in a fight for the what seems like a BILLIONth time about her. (i dont have problems with any other girls,,,just this specific one) it resulted in me being hurt, confused, and feeling sick. i want this to stop. i want to cure my jealousy and trust issues, and problems. and i want to stop hurting my boyfriend. i love hi,m with all my heart, but its like i CANT stop myself! i have no idea why. can someone please please give me some good advice? thanks :-/

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   Posted 2/25/2010 11:12 PM (GMT -7)   
I would advise that you try your hardest to trust him..relationships are built around trust and without that, you will never be happy. Does he trust you? If he does then you should do the same for him...if you have never caught him doing anything, then I don't see any reason why you shouldn't trust him. If you really have a issue with this or other things going on in your life, then maybe you should talk to your family doctor about and see if they can help'd be suprised! I hope thing start to get better girl! :) ((hugs))

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   Posted 2/26/2010 5:26 AM (GMT -7)   
I'd ask him if you guys could take a break in order for you to work on your issues. Otherwise you risk a nasty break up.

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   Posted 2/26/2010 9:56 AM (GMT -7)   
Good Morning,

Very glad to hear you are in counseling as that is your best choice to help you learn ways to overcome your issues. Please do work hard with your counselor and I hope your boyfriend sees that you are truly working on getting past the jealousy. I know it is often hard to feel secure in a relationship so know you are not alone. Just remember you can get past this and know we care.

Gentle Hugs,


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   Posted 2/26/2010 6:13 PM (GMT -7)   
I'm no good with this kind of advice but, if I was in your shoes I'd give myself some relief. If you have to question or worry, you always will. Don't sell yourself short.

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   Posted 2/28/2010 2:16 PM (GMT -7)   

this is the link to my Part 2 of this post. thanks
Edit:  I linked your  thread.   :)

Post Edited By Moderator (stkitt) : 2/28/2010 5:43:35 PM (GMT-7)

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