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   Posted 8/14/2010 1:37 PM (GMT -7)   
Hey ya'll,  Sorry to just pop by once every 6 mos or so. I feel like I should be here more often encouraging others, considering I've had anxiety and panic disorder for more then 15 years.  I've been so bad I can't leave the house or hold a job, took meds improved, got off the meds, did great for a long time, fell back down in the hole, found my way back out again.. So far I'm 4 years no medication and doing...ok.
So I decided with my father-in-laws helpful encouragment that I could handle the stress of owning a pizza restaurant.  Turns out I can! Then He and my husband toyed with the thought of 2.  Now somehow I jumped on this bandwagon with great enthusiasm.  Turns out, 2 restaurants are 1 too many.  I'm in far to deep to go back, I refuse to fail, and I've literally clawed my own skin off with anxiety attacks.  I have constant diarreah and nausia.  I'm thinking at this point maybe I should go to the Dr and get back on some meds??  I don't want that.  It's the last thing I want to do.  I hate the way they made me feel.  Yes meds knocked the anxiety down to a level I could cope, but they also knocked me down I felt like a zombie.  Yet I know somethings going to give soon, and I'm afraid it will be me.  
   I can't tell if I'm doing good or bad with my jobs.  I have to hold it together for the employee's I can't let them see me like this.  Having to correct or confront them is a sure fire way to have an anxiety attack. I think i'm just held together with threads at the moment.   
Let my words today be tender and sweet, for tomorrow I may have to eat them.

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   Posted 8/14/2010 1:44 PM (GMT -7)   
Sounds like what you need is a plan to get yourself some much needed help in the restaurant. Think about what taks are becoming overwhelming and talk to father in law & hubby about it. See what they can do to help. What you have is well placed anxiety-it's not uncalled for. When you get rid of the problem at hand your anxiety will vanish. All the best to you!

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   Posted 8/15/2010 12:35 AM (GMT -7)   
You can perhaps hire a manager to over see things at one store, and give you weekly updates. Or you can let someone buy a share into your company and have them run that one. Or sit down to hubby and dad and say "ok this is too much and I need help. my anxiety is getting the best of me and its becoming harder to do my job as an employer. could you guys help me with one of the stores?"

You might want to talk to your doctor too.
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   Posted 8/15/2010 5:54 AM (GMT -7)   
Hey there,  you have received some good advice from some of our wonderful members.
I agree you are overextended and your beating yourself up because you are feeling like you must be all things to everyone.   This is not true and remember you must take care of yourself first or you will not be able to find peace and happiness again.
Please do sit down with your hubby and tell him how you feel.  It sounds like a good idea to go back to only one Pizza Parlor for you to be responsible for and have someone else take over the 2nd one. 
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Date Joined Feb 2009
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   Posted 8/17/2010 6:13 PM (GMT -7)   
Aww Thanks all, and it is wonderful advice. I was kind of thinking I might be spreading myself too thin. I do have a great manager at one of my stores, I'm just trying to wean her off of me. She can do alot more then she gives herself credit for. She complains alot that i'm not at that store enough. Well that's kind of why she's there is my thinking.
I have talked to my husband since last I posted. We narrowed it down to a few things causing the anxiety to rear it's ugly head. We are now working on those things. He remembers when I couldn't leave the house because of my panic attacks and anxiety, niether of us wants to go down that road again.
Let my words today be tender and sweet, for tomorrow I may have to eat them.
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