I am hoping I will be welcomes here though my questions and needs different than most posters. Last Oct my 28 year old son came back from a family trip with me, my husband, daughter/husband and his best friend of 15 years. Had a great time. Last three days of trip he got a "bad cold" as did my husband. 15 days after the return and his trying to find out what was wrong, diagnosed with cancer, stage 4 though no previous symptoms, 3 weeks later.
So depression is expected. But I function now and my concern is not for me, I mean, this is a lifelong pain problem, but for his best friend and like my second son. my son was more than his friend, it was his brother and in reality his only true friend. He has grieved with us and we have been a good source for one another. But now I am very worried about
him. Three weeks ago he started having severe anxiety attacks and was rushed to hospital and yes, thought he was having a heart attack. But it has since been diagnosed as Panic Anxiety.
He moved in with his sister as the feeling of being alone was overwhelming. He was put on Ativan and fears this is going too be too addictive. He doesn't have any insurance and his sister paid for the doctor who put him on this. We know and he knows, he needs to talk to someone, get to the source of all this pain as all his life he feels he has been self destructive in his lifestyle and was just waiting for it to be over. But now, he realizes he wants to live, quit smoking, drinking (still has a glass or two of wine at night)etc. Getting his body healthier. He needs to leave the city he is as there is no opportunity and he realizes he needs to start making his life count.
So he will move here with us and my husband consider him our second son and feel we can help him start over. But I am concerned about
trying to get counseling for someone with no insurance.
I was wondering if people here feel that counseling is mandatory as you find the answers to the source of the problem or explore how to deal with it? Is anyone here on Ativan and worry about
the long term addiction of it? I was wondering if a different one would leave him less "tired"? Does it make a difference by changing medications?
I want to help him. I guess you could say I know my son left him to us to heal and we all heal together.
I just don't know if anyone has dealt with panic attacks after an emotional loss and will it go away eventually? He worries he is his "dad" who suffered life long emotional issues including panic anxiety. I tell him he isn't his dad...I just want to help...
Sorry this is so long but I wanted you to understand our situation.
Post Edited By Moderator (stkitt) : 8/21/2010 9:15:47 AM (GMT-6)