Starting new job and nervous

What causes you the most anxiety?
Starting a new job? - 0.0%
Facing conflict? - 33.3%
Public speaking? - 33.3%
Fear of being ridiculed? - 0.0%
Other? - 33.3%

New Topic Post Reply Printable Version
[ << Previous Thread | Next Thread >> ]

New Member

Date Joined Sep 2010
Total Posts : 2
   Posted 9/12/2010 4:51 AM (GMT -7)   
I want to add to this that i am in the helping profession and it makes it difficult for me to ask for support- but the helpers need help too. Despite anxiety i usually do my job well and have not needed medication but have a long history of fear of judgment- I am also a member of a minority group and have moved frequently that adds to a sense of not belonging- just wanted to add that in- thanks! :0) Hello. I am a professional who is starting a new job after being with the same office for several years. I have a boss currently who tells me that he feels this is not a good move for me and has just been very angry about me leaving. I know this will be a good move for me but as my first day approaches and this is becoming real I move from being confident and happy to feeling sad, angry and anxious. I know I will feel better after I start my new job and am there for a bit but I fear I will not be excepted unless I perform perfectly- my own negative thoughts that are not reflective of the reality which is good. How can I calm myself down? I have always hated change. How can I make this change with a better attitude? Right now I can't sleep and I suspect it will worsten as I get closer to starting. I would also love to hear stories from other people who have started new jobs and how they coped. Thanks for taking the time to read and for any help you can offer. Have a great day!

Post Edited (Northeaster) : 9/12/2010 6:04:55 AM (GMT-6)

Scaredy Cat
Forum Moderator

Date Joined Sep 2006
Total Posts : 27120
   Posted 9/12/2010 8:16 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi, welcome and congratulations on your new job! Being anxious about a new, or unfamiliar situation is normal, and acutally pretty beneficial. Fear allows us to stay safe, and sharp, boosting our mental and physical abilities. That said, if your anxiety has gone beyond helpful and is affecting quality of life, then it is time to take control. Here are a couple of things that have helped me in the past.

Positive imagery-Imagine yourself on your first day doing a fantastic job. You charm co-workers and your boss, learn the new system perfectly, and have a productive and wonderful time!

Mantras-mantras are phrases that you can repeat over in your head anytime/where. They reinforce positive messages, even when you are feeling doubtful. The words that we speak to ourselves have a tremendous impact on our lives! (and this is not just new-age feel good stuff! Psychiatrists and psychologists will attest) Pick a phrase that gives you confidence and power. It could be "I am fully competent to do this job" or " I will be a success" Keep repeating this when negative thoughts try to creep in.
Remember, they hired you for a reason-now go get 'em!
Scaredy Cat

Forum Moderator

Date Joined Apr 2007
Total Posts : 32602
   Posted 9/12/2010 8:29 AM (GMT -7)   
Good Morning and welcome to HealingWell.
I am not sure what profession you are in but as a professional myself I know it is very common for some of us to want to be perfect and when we cannot meet our own expectations we beat ourselves up.  Try to be kind to yourself and remember you do not have to be perfect.
Since a new job is always accompanied by new surroundings, new co-workers, new responsibilities, and many uncertainties, starting a new job is a significant source of stress.

Coupled with the necessity of dealing with unfamiliar surroundings, people and expectations, beginning a new job is also associate with the fear of failure.
Rather then letting your new job stress overwhelm you, try to pinpoint the causes of your anxiety.

Being the new kid on the block is one of the most intimidating aspects of starting a new job. Try to gauge the level of familiarity at your new place of employment. Do people treat each other as close friends or keep their work and personal lives separate?

Use change to your advantage. Log your accomplishments as a way to track progress in your new position. However, if the stress associated with a new job is seriously affecting your life, make sure you get appropriate professional help.





Moderator: Anxiety/Panic, Osteoarthritis, GERD/Heartburn and Heart/Cardiovascular Disease.

"If you can't change the world, change your world"

Regular Member

Date Joined Jul 2010
Total Posts : 358
   Posted 9/12/2010 12:14 PM (GMT -7)   
Nobody is perfect and even professionals need help from time to time. Doctors see other doctors. Therapists see other therapists. Asking for help is a sign of strength and respect for yourself; not a sign of weakness. As great as you may be at what you do, it's hard to treat yourself and to see things from that external perspective that only another person can provide. So allow yourself the help you may need and keep in mind that when you're healthier you'll be in a better position to help others.

As far as starting a new job... it certainly can be stressful and that's OK. Try to remember what it was like when you first started your current job. I've read that it often takes up to 2 years before a new employee is "truly" considered to be fully accommodated to their new position. You're new and people know that. They expect you to have questions and that the procedures, forms, whatever that were appropriate at your current place may not be what is used or works best at this new place. It's a tough economy - they chose you for a reason. Trust that and good luck!

New Member

Date Joined Sep 2010
Total Posts : 2
   Posted 9/12/2010 9:46 PM (GMT -7)   
Thanks for all the words of wisdom everyone!
New Topic Post Reply Printable Version
Forum Information
Currently it is Friday, December 15, 2017 4:59 PM (GMT -7)
There are a total of 2,905,938 posts in 318,904 threads.
View Active Threads

Who's Online
This forum has 158248 registered members. Please welcome our newest member, PatrickMA.
357 Guest(s), 7 Registered Member(s) are currently online.  Details
PeteZa, jan1952, ppm guy, Lissamarie, Jay777, getting by, Tim Tam