How do you tell your mother to go away and leave you alone?
I dont mean to be disrespectful, but shes driving me insane. example:
Im in bed this AM and its 6:45. The phone rings. Its my mother. I dread picking it up. I think about letting it go to the answering machine, but I know one of my kids is going to pick it up anyways and bring me the phone. I bite the bullet an answer it. She doesnt even say good morning. She starts in with "well i just quit my job. I hated that place. I told them to take their job and shove it. im tired of it." I cut her off and say "good morning mother." she continues, "now i wont have enough money to make my rent. im starving. my cats wont have any food. how will i pay my bills?" I cut in again... "well maybe you shouldve have quit." The she goes on. "you dont understand. I cant make my bills. God I hated that place. how will i live? atleast you have money. (I dont. I have $23. in the bank) you own a house (yeah whose mortgage just went up by $200 a month) you have everything. You have the perfect life!"
I dont. I havent worked more than 4 days in the past two months because my panic/depression has gotten so bad I can't even get out of bed most days. My husband is strained trying to pay our bills and mortgage. I have 6 kids I take care of. Two are in college. I remind her of this. constantly.
"Mom, I dont have any money either. my bills are all three months past due too. My phones about to be shut off (maybe thats a good thing, now that i think about it) and im struggling to make ends meet too." <mind you its 6:50AM>
She knows I have anxiety. She knows ive been out of work because of it. She knows all of it. She only cares about her and her problems. never once does she ask me if she can help, nor does she ever shut up for two seconds to listen to me. I try to assert myself but she talks over me. everytime I tell her I have problems too she always says "but you have a house. you have a husband to take care of you. you have your kids... goes on and on. She doesnt understand that just because you own a house doesnt mean there are money trees in the back yard.
My question is this: How do I politely tell my mother to leave me alone? She stresses me out before Im even out of bed on most mornings and its always about how bad her life is and how good she thinks I have it. Every morning I dread answering the phone. Just the sight of her number on my caller Id gives me chest pain. I feel like crying. If I dont answer it she'll call me up to <and im not kidding> 10 times a day until i answer. When I hang up i am emotionally dained, im shaking.. im feeling like I have to throw up, and the chest pain last for hours throwing me into an even deeper panic about my heart health.
I dont want to be disrespectful but this takes me 5 steps back every morning when all I want to do is get through the day.
sorry for the long post... but i need ideas!
Suffers from OCD, health anxiety, panic, PTSD