I see you getting stronger day by day but remember no beating yourself up. Once our loved one dies, we may feel a mix of emotions – sadness, relief, guilt and regret – to name just a few. These are typical grief reactions but they do not make us feel any better at the moment. Accept that you have done the best you can and as a Mother I never hold any judges or regrets for loving my children so much. Your Mother would not want you to regret anything that you shared together, the good and the not so good times.
Part of the grieving process is to find our “new normal.” Who are we without our loved one? What do we do now without our loved one? What kind of future do we have without our loved one? I always think back to what my loved one would want for me and that would be to live my life to the fullest.
A new griever finds it hard to believe that things will get better. But it does! Very slowly for one as each person grieves and recovers in their own unique way. Some will take longer than others, but with each passing day, it gets a little better and we usually find that we are starting to put a plan together for our new future, for our “new normal.”
I admire your for getting out in the sunshine and accepting the support of your boyfriend. This is a time when we share with people who understand us. We are here for you Elen so let us help you. By sharing your feelings you are helping others here in the forum.
Gentle Hugs to a special young woman.
~~Kitt~~Moderator: Anxiety/Panic, Osteoarthritis, GERD/Heartburn and Heart/Cardiovascular Disease. www.healingwell.com"If you can't change the world, change your world"