Hello and welcome to HealingWell. I can see you are in a tough situation right now and I am going to advise you to put yourself first and work on what is going on with you.
If you are looking for empathy and emotional support
you have come to the right place as the members here are warm and caring and
Now let's see if I can come up with some helpful advice. Trying to blend families is difficult and at this point you were invited to live with your girlfriend in her home. It is normal behavior for your daughter to lash out but it is not acceptable behavior so perhaps she would benefit from a therapist to help her with her anxieties and "anger".
To make it a peaceful and civil place for all to live in harmony your daughter needed someone to explain the fact that she is entering your girlfriend and your domain. Although you have accepted your girlfriend to be a part of your
life, your daughter has not.
I suspect in trying to please everyone you became overwhelmed and your anger was your way of reacting to a stressful situation.
If you get to the point where you make amends with your girlfriend then your girlfriend and your daughter need to build a relationship based on what
they both feel comfortable with at first and take baby steps and move forward
In my humble opinion you most likely are going through anxiety and depression and would love to have a quick fix plan but it takes time to build trust relationships. Please remember I am not a physician. I would like you to consider seeing a therapist on your own who can help you make the transition from being an ex-husband to now being an independent adult who understands what it takes to move on with your life and hopefully you can rebuild your relationship with your girlfriend.
I did note that your girlfriend would like life to be in the "dating stage' as that was fun etc but after the dating stage life moves into the reality of a committment and I am not sure she is quite ready for that either but than I am not living in her shoes or yours so I am just an outsider with support and suggestions for you.
Seeing your Dr. for a medical screening exam strikes me as a good idea as this Dr. could also recommend a therapist in your area.
I wish you peace,
~~Kitt~~Moderator: Anxiety, Osteoarthritis,
GERD/Heartburn and Heart/Cardiovascular Disease. "Learn to get in touch with the silence within yourself, and know that everything in this life has purpose. There are no mistakes, no coincidences. All events are blessings given to us to learn from."~ Elisabeth Kübler-Ross