As you know...been there, done that myself (we've talked about
...but I'll just remind you that things do get better with time. Twenty one is still young...especially for a male.
My oldest and I were still getting into it at that age. We are besties now.:) Well, as bestie as mother and daughter can be. I will always be her mom first, friend second!
As much as I love her and do enjoy our friendship...I am also careful to not depend on it as I would a regular friendship...because she needs me to be mom first and foremost, no matter what her age!
One thing that helped me was a piece of advice my sister gave me. She told me to never take anything that my kids did or said personally.
I thought...how the heck am I supposed to do that? They are my flesh and blood that I've poured my heart and soul into!!
...but I decided to make this a mantra...
"Don't take it personally...don't take it personally...DON'T TAKE IT PERSONALLY!!!"
...yes, that last one is me screaming at myself! ;p
Well, lo and behold...it worked and she was right...as big sisters annoyingly tend to be, lol!
Speak up when you need to of course...rudeness is not something to tolerate and you can certainly speak your mind...but as for guarding your heart? Remember the mantra!
"Courage is not the abscence of fear, it is feeling afraid and doing it anyway!"
"Worrying does not empty tomorrow of its troubles...it empties today of its strength."
Corrie Ten Boom
Panic Syndrome recovery due to CBT
Post Edited (Scaredy Cat) : 12/3/2014 3:13:04 PM (GMT-7)