Posted 7/3/2015 12:04 PM (GMT -7)
I haven't spoken about this on HW yet, but today I feel like I have to because it's a huge source of stress and anxiety.
I recently found out my dad has been struggling with cocaine and alcohol issues for the past few years now. I noticed a change in his behavior but never really thought much of it, and chalked it up to the stress after my parents' divorce, but when my mom told me it was because of his drug usage, it all made sense.
Allegedly, he's been "sober" for a few months now, goes to AA meetings, has a sponsor that he speaks to regularly, and goes through the motions. But I found out, again through my mom, that this is a lie. He hasn't been sober this entire time, and is in complete denial about his behavior. My dad is a narcissist, a really really kind and generous one, but is so wrapped up in himself that he can't see that his problem is really a problem. My mom has allocated me the task of finding him a rehab to go to, but I've tried to have talks with him about his drug usage before and he changes the subject. I'm not sure how I'm supposed to suggest he go to rehab if he can't even admit he has a problem.
I grew up pretty comfortably for most of my childhood, but I was just informed that my dad blew my trust fund on drugs and paying off his ex girlfriend's apartment, leaving me with no money for my last semester of school.
I will have to apply for private student loans, which is okay, I know I can do it, but it's just stressful and hard.