Hello Scaredy Cat and Supapfunk,
Thanks for your posts and support, it means a bunch.
A little background on the story if it has interest: 4-5 years ago when we were in high school, I told my friend "Hey, I have this weird problem and if I tell you you cant stop... you wanna hear it?"...
it was very stupid and thoughtless of me, but I had no idea of the implications, and of course she felt it immediately... After high school, we both took a year off from college, and I actually kinda forgot about
it. Then, we started at the same college and since we are best friends we actually also now live as room-mates, so we are together everyday. In a casual way, my friend told me "hey, I still sometimes have that swallowing problem sometimes", and of course it returned to me. This is why I feel a tremendous amount of guilt and shame, and it feels as if I "set her up" for the problem, even if it was unintentional, and why I feel like the need to find a cure or something to help her too.
I have previously talked to a therapist, because my anxiety has presented itself in other versions earlier (which have now disappeared), but not about
this problem. I think talking to a doctor about
it, as you mention Scaredy, would be the first step - they probably don't know of it, but maybe they can recommend a therapist, help center or similar. So I will do that in one of the upcoming weeks..
Supafunk; you are right that I pay special attention to it, when I am together with her, but it has started to spread to other areas of my life as well, especially when I feel anxious. You are also right, that I am reading very much into every little sounds, especially from her as well - but I also know she still has the problem as she told me, so I feel my problem is interconnected to her
Thank you both for your support, again it means a lot (!!). I will try to check out the resources at the top and schedule time with the doctor sometime soon