"How do I put my well being first? I feel so guilty when I do."
Maybe you could get the two adult children back in the nest and the husband to do the cooking supper and cleaning the kitchen duties on weeknights after you get home from work. As you head for your bed and maybe some TV.
On weekends, you do no cooking or housework, but again, they take over those duties.
I thought of this years after my wife worked fulltime, and I, with bipolar, would sometimes be out of work, but never thought during those months at a time I would be out of work, to cook on those nights. Or do housework on the weekends.
Be positive that you can get through this, or,
"One problem at a time, and be positive about
Does the needy mother live in the house with everyone? Either way, perhaps have one of the adult children help with the needy mother while you get needed rest.
Can you get food delivered to your house on Friday/Saturday night?
Post Edited (Tim Tam) : 5/19/2017 4:32:18 PM (GMT-6)