Job and Family Health issue

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anxiouscanadian
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   Posted 9/26/2017 12:04 PM (GMT -7)   
I'm in a sales job which since I'm not hitting my target will lose this week, today I found out a family member who has been in and out of the hospital for 2 months has cancer, just looking to see if anyone has tips to how to cope with news of a loved on who has been diagnosed as my anxiety is pretty high right now.

Thanks.

older guy
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   Posted 9/26/2017 12:27 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi Canadian,

Just one thought: take it one day at a time. Or one event at a time. My sister had breast cancer last year. It really worked out OK if I could remember to take it one day at a time, no worrying about the future or regrets about the past. It sounds easier said than done but it is worth a try.

about your job, are there other leads you can pursue? Good luck.

Love,
Rich

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anxiouscanadian
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   Posted 9/26/2017 1:33 PM (GMT -7)   
Thanks, I've been looking the more pressing matter is the family thing because I was beginning to hate the job anyway, They have been in and out of the hospital since August but the cancer was only discovered today.

Scaredy Cat
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   Posted 9/26/2017 1:34 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi AC,

Great advice by O.G. above!

I will add my encouragement to not get overwhelmed by the big picture.

Both of the stressors you mentioned would result in anxiety for anyone...it is a normal response to such things.

We don't have control of situations like this, but we how we respond is within our management...and that is a very powerful tool.

Being pro-active in regards to your job is certainly in order. If the current situation is not working out in your favor, then seeking to find an alternative employment is of course the next step.

As far as the bad news that your loved one is facing (and I am sorry to hear this!) there is only so much you can do. Staying as positive as possible for them and yourself...offering support...working your coping skills to keep you calm are all good tools to help manage a difficult situation.

Keep talking with us. Letting all these thoughts and feelings out is cathartic, and part of why we are all here for each other.

(((Hugs)))

S.C.
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"Courage is not the abscence of fear, it is feeling afraid and doing it anyway!"

"Worrying does not empty tomorrow of its troubles...it empties today of its strength."
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anxiouscanadian
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   Posted 9/26/2017 6:21 PM (GMT -7)   
thanks for the comments and advice, I apperciate it.

anxiouscanadian
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   Posted 9/28/2017 3:32 PM (GMT -7)   
Today I went to see my grandfather in hospital, his health took a turn very recently so I wasn't expecting it. He seemed fine 2/3 months ago but it doesn't look like he will be with us much longer as he is in palliative care. He was very weak and lost a lot of weight since I last saw him but was asking me about baseball and the hockey teams I play on and what was going on in the MLB, it was very tough to keep it together but the past few hours I just felt like I should have spent more time with him up... until 2 months ago he was very healthy for his age and i'm filled with this regret. It sounds silly but I can't help but think it. I also feel very bad for my grandmother as a year and half ago she was diagnosed with alzheimer's. I got my prescription so of Clonzapam so I'm not worried about panic attacks, but I'm very regretful now.

Scaredy Cat
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   Posted 9/28/2017 7:06 PM (GMT -7)   
Awww A.C.

I am very sorry to hear about your grandpa's decline in health. Of course this is very difficult...especially coupled with your grandmother's dx too. 😐

It was wonderful that you could see him today...and though it is hard to see our loved ones struggle...it's a part of the relationship that we walk with them out of love .

Your grandpa isn't worried about previous time not spent...

...he is only so happy you were there today!

...and you can continue to be there more from this day on.

Don't live in the regrets...but in the resolve to better the future.☺

Positive thoughts and prayers for you and your family!

S.C.
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"Courage is not the abscence of fear, it is feeling afraid and doing it anyway!"

"Worrying does not empty tomorrow of its troubles...it empties today of its strength."
Corrie Ten Boom

Panic Syndrome recovery due to CBT

prew
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   Posted 10/2/2017 2:11 PM (GMT -7)   
That's sad my dear I know the feeling, that is life.

I hope you feel better soon
I won't be scared for a disease that doesn't have a proper medication..Fear in my life is some thing in the past..i will never be running to the ER everytime my heart start poundind fast..If God is with me who can be against me.
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