Is It Ok To Say No?

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Blu's Mama
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   Posted 9/28/2017 11:59 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi everyone,

I know I haven't checked in in a few weeks, I've been in Texas for the past few weeks visiting my partner's family and have tried to immerse fully. It's been a hectic (to say the least) trip, we drove from Los Angeles, to Phoenix, to El Paso, now in Lubbock, with a weekend trip to New Mexico last weekend. We're finally heading home on Monday even though overall we've had a great time. We've managed to have something booked every night whether it be dinner, a football game, volunteering, going to the fair, visiting someone, or something, which has put my homebody self out of my comfort zone which I know is a great thing, but it's definitely exhausting. Especially for someone who does not like crowds, or being away from her space.

I just wanted to get your opinion on something. Tonight, we were invited to my partners sister in laws birthday celebration (the trip to NM was to celebrate her birthday, and we also did a dinner earlier this week) that she's sharing with people we don't know at a very crowded venue. I just don't know if I have it in me tonight to do another event. My anxiety while at bay, has also been at a huge high with the decrease in Zoloft, and I feel like I just need a break from everything. We have a busy weekend before we go (another football game, and they're having a big dinner Saturday night), and this is really my only night to take care of me before we go. Not to mention it's that time of the month and I'm not feeling 100%- I've had to medicate with NSAID's every 4 hours to dull the excruciating pain.

Am I wrong to say no to go tonight? Or am I letting anxiety win and keeping me inside?

MaKenna&Chisum
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   Posted 9/28/2017 1:11 PM (GMT -7)   
Yes. You don't feel well, and based on all you've done and will do, it hardly seems like an anxiety cop out.

I would apologize to the sister in law for missing her party, but she's certainly been there before and will understand.

Feel better!

Scaredy Cat
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   Posted 9/28/2017 3:02 PM (GMT -7)   
Blu's,

I agree...this is not anxiety winning...it's simply self care.

Is K supportive of you sitting this event out? If so, then rest, recharge and recover without an ounce of regret/guilt.smile

I hope the rest of the trip is awesome! (great pics so far...looks amazing!)

Hugs,

S.C.
Moderator:Anxiety/Panic

"Courage is not the abscence of fear, it is feeling afraid and doing it anyway!"

"Worrying does not empty tomorrow of its troubles...it empties today of its strength."
Corrie Ten Boom

Panic Syndrome recovery due to CBT

theHTreturns...
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   Posted 9/28/2017 6:20 PM (GMT -7)   
absolutely ok my friend.

kellyinCali
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   Posted 9/29/2017 12:11 AM (GMT -7)   
Listen to your body.......you're the only one who is going to. smile

Blu's Mama
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   Posted 9/29/2017 11:23 AM (GMT -7)   
SC,

She was very understanding, and I had a nice mellow night in and was able to relax a bit.

Any tips to combat this DP/DR? open to any and all suggestions.
GAD, Panic Disorder, OCD
Los Angeles, CA

Scaredy Cat
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   Posted 9/29/2017 2:02 PM (GMT -7)   
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Love it!! I was happy to read this!

As far as D/P & D/R...acceptance and distraction, or grounding techniques work for me...but truthfully it isn't a big trigger for me, so I'm sorry I don't have much in the way of skills for this issue.

Do a search here...or check out the Resource's links on it if you've not already.

S.C.
Moderator:Anxiety/Panic

"Courage is not the abscence of fear, it is feeling afraid and doing it anyway!"

"Worrying does not empty tomorrow of its troubles...it empties today of its strength."
Corrie Ten Boom

Panic Syndrome recovery due to CBT
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