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   Posted 10/12/2017 8:25 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi All,
I once felt better with some treatment for anxiety and depression ,but so sorry to say mymom and other family members do not understand my perspective and love me the least.

Other siblings come first,and not me.For a long time was in denial and thought beacuse of panic disorder and depression my mind is not clear and its a delusion.

But lately come back to reality which is hard to understand for me as love them the most.My siblings on other hand are ignorant and do not care for aging parents..I am ready to be their caregiver as I am single and not available for relationships anymore.

But looks like my invitation is ignored and I feel devalued.

Makes me extremely upset and mad at myself to be surrounded by toxic ppl use me and offer me nothing my whole life.
I feel envious and filled with grudge which never have ever experienced before ever in my life.I feel chronically depressed and down at this stage in life .
I do not have their moral or financial support anymore and feel abandoned which like my biggest nightmare .
How should I cope for loss of family and hope anymore ???

Scaredy Cat
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   Posted 10/12/2017 10:10 AM (GMT -7)   

I am so sorry to hear of how you are feeling atm. I of course don't know all of the history and the dynamics of it all...

...but I know no one should feel abandoned and rejected by their family. :/

I think the best advice I can give you is to never lose your sense of self worth due to anyone else's behavior.

I repeat...

Never let someone else define your sense of self.

You are a good, kind, caring, smart and loving person. I see that clearly, just from knowing you here.smile

You can't choose your family, but you can choose your friends...so perhaps focusing on cultivating your relationships of choice should be your focus for now.

Don't close off communications with your family of course...be open to healing and reconciliation...but neither should you keep banging your head against the same door so to speak...

Hugs my friend. Remember who YOU are...and know that you are loved by many.


"Courage is not the abscence of fear, it is feeling afraid and doing it anyway!"

"Worrying does not empty tomorrow of its troubles...it empties today of its strength."
Corrie Ten Boom

Panic Syndrome recovery due to CBT

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   Posted 10/12/2017 8:42 PM (GMT -7)   
Cilly, I'm sorry you are going through this with your family. You are 'not' alone. S.C. has given you some great advice. I hope you feel better. HUG.
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