I just found out my partner of 17 years cheated on me for over a year two years ago. We have been living together for 17 years, and have a 16 year old daughter. I am done with him. We are split up but I have no money to move out immediately. I have been working full time to pay off my debt. He owns the house, so I can't kick him out even though I want to.
Next week is his birthday. I will not wish him a happy birthday. I'm so disgusted with him I can't even describe it. He has been a possessive emotionally controlling partner for 15 out of the 17 years we have been romantically together. The last two years we have not slept in the same room as I suspected he cheated while he was living in NY for a job transfer. I just received conformation from the woman he cheated on me with last week. He probably justifies his cheating and blames me because our relationship has been up and down since we met. I assumed the role of a wife for 17 years without all the benefits. I raised our daughter and worked and put myself through school. And now I have to find an apartment. He is good to our daughter though.
I guess you can say I hate him, because I do.
Should I buy the man a gift for his birthday for our daughter to give him?
If I am still in that house, there will be no "holiday gift exchanging" like we have done. I refuse to buy him anything. I will have to spend the holiday in a Hotel to avoid all of that.
I am hoping to move out asap, but it wont be easy. I only make $800 every two weeks, and I am in big debt. I feel like my life is swirling right now.
Any advice would be so appreciated. Thank you!
Post Edited (FearBug) : 5/10/2018 10:52:39 AM (GMT-6)