Dad died last week...

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   Posted 9/13/2018 7:06 PM (GMT -6)   
Sorry I've been MIA...was doing tremendously well with everything lately until my dad got severely sick and passed away on September 2.

Now that the funeral and everything is done with and its quiet, stress and grief have hit me pretty hard. I was daddy's little girl, yes, even at 41...

I expected anxiety, grief, depression, etc...but is blurry vision a physical symptom of stress? I went and got a massage today, but the blurry vision is concerning me. I know stress has many symptoms, but what are the best ways to deal with it?

Feeling lost at the moment...

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   Posted 9/14/2018 3:08 AM (GMT -6)   

So sorry to hear about your dad my thoughts are with you and your family at this tough time.

Blurry vision can be a symptom of stress but if it's something that is really worrying you go and speak with your doctor, You could also speak with them about getting a referral to see a grief councillor.


I try not to worry about the future -- so I take each day just one anxiety attack at a time.


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   Posted 9/14/2018 9:26 AM (GMT -6)   
HI Sylkmyst,

I don't know you, but I just wanted to say sorry for your loss. Losing a parent is hard. And I whole heartedly agree with grief counseling. It helps a lot.

Stress can cause a lot of physical symptoms. It has caused me blood sugar problems before and again. I hope you see your doctor soon or talk to a grief counselor. We all grieve differently and there is no time limit to it.

Know we all care about you. So sorry again for your loss.

Hugs, Karen...

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   Posted 9/14/2018 9:53 AM (GMT -6)   
Thank you both so much, Hibee and Getting By. I'm just trying to take things one day at a time. That all I can do. I'm going to see my therapist next Wednesday, but I think I may do what you both suggested and see a grief counselor.

Thank you again!

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   Posted 9/14/2018 12:23 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi Sylk,

My deepest condolences on the loss of your dear father. Words can't express how sorry I am. I know this pain, and I am sending much love and understanding your way.

Of course grief is a trigger for our anxiety...especially when our loss is sudden or unexpected. Be patient with yourself and the process of grieving.

As anxious people we sometimes forget that anxiety is a normal part of the human condition. We naturally have it in excess, so we are accustomed to be always seeking to manage it...

...but there are times when it is completely appropriate (and even necessary), so learning to accept it and live in that place for a time is a worthy goal.

Use your coping skills to help relieve your physical symptoms...and know that with time, things will less overwhelming.

Come talk to us anytime, okay? We are here for you friend.


"Courage is not the abscence of fear, it is feeling afraid and doing it anyway!"

"Worrying does not empty tomorrow of its empties today of its strength."
Corrie Ten Boom

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   Posted 9/15/2018 1:48 PM (GMT -6)   
Scaredy Cat,

Thank you for your condolences. I've been using coping skills and letting my body release itself on it's own. I hope that you are all doing well and I've missed you all!

Thank you,
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