I’m glad you’re thinking about
taking your medicine.
You say you’re positive, but you make a list of upsets and make statements which suggest that might not be true, in my view.
I can write a list of my defeats for you, and a lot of them happened before I read a column on being positive.
I was raised in a negative household, and I have bipolar (for which I take Lithium and Mirtazapine anti-depressant), so negative thinking could be one of those or both.
I didn’t think I was negative, either, I just thought I was being more practical than others, more honest. I was really just following the tone set in my growing up household before I had a chance to make decisions on my own.
For one of those defeats on my list, I distinctly remember my conscious had the solution, but my negative unconscious muddled the works by saying, “That won’t work, because….” And came up with some silly, untrue reason which had me thinking half positive and half negative, and fouled up the works.
I realized I had to get my negative unconscious in line with my positive conscious. If one thought negative (unconscious) and one thought positive (conscious) I was going to be in trouble. And I stumbled across a column in the newspaper which solved that issue.
It said, before you go into a problem, believe that you can solve. What that does is get both our conscious and our unconscious believing we can solve it, and it frees up both parts of the mind to look for the solution. Rather than, having the unconscious (negative upbringing) looking for reasons why the problem can’t be solved.
I so believed in this column, and the woman who wrote it, that I clipped it out and put it on my bulletin board. I told myself, the next time you have a problem, don’t think about
the problem, but first read the column on being positive to get your mind going in the right direction.
It was a two-step process. The first step was getting the negative out of my unconscious, which I couldn’t see and never knew if it was fouling me up. Since I can’t see it, let’s clear it out of any hidden negative thinking before we even think about
It’s like mine-sweeping our brain.
What was the next problem? My son comes in and says the car's in the backyard and it won’t start. Well, too much problem for me, because we have a small twisting driveway and a big wrecker won’t get into it. I thought, I’ll wait until my wife gets home and she’ll solve the problem.
Then I thought, wait, I was supposed to read the column on being positive before I tried to solve my next problem. I got the column down and started reading it. By the 4th paragraph I thought, “Johnson’s.”
What was Johnson’s? It was a garage up the street that had a small wrecker which could get into our small driveway and a couple of years ago had gotten one of our cars.
How had I solved the problem and I wasn’t even thinking about
it? By reading the column, my unconscious had been cleared of negative, and it was seeking the answer while I read the column.
From then on, whenever I was away from the column and had a problem, I would consciously try to clear my unconscious of any negative by saying over and over, “Think positive, think positive, think positive.” And only then start thinking about
the problem. It’s a two-step process.
Notice, this method only requires being positive for 30 seconds when trying to solve a problem. It doesn’t require you to be positive all day long or to completely change your personality. You can still be yourself.
Also, not only do we affect ourselves when we think negative about
solving problems, it affects those around us. There could be some people who are depending on us for help, so thinking negative also affects them. That’s not fair. It, too, can affect others who can imitate our negative thinking.
Post Edited (Tim Tam) : 6/25/2020 10:07:44 AM (GMT-6)