Posted 1/21/2021 11:28 AM (GMT -7)
I once saw a TV show on scuba divers who went into sunken boats. And some of them would get into the vessel and couldn't find their way back out, going backwards,
One of the commentators who was a scuba diver said, "Once you get into the first level of trouble, start backing out." Meaning, don't get into one more level of difficulty than you can handle. If you get in past your limit, you might be in real trouble, is the way I interpreted it with problems in general.
It sounds like you're in about 3 or 4 levels of trouble. I mean, it's pretty easy to understand why you're having a difficult time. One of those levels might be difficult enough, but 3 or 4?
I think if you can deal with each of them separately and be positive that you can solve it, it might help. Can you be positive about each one?
As far as getting dropped by a narcissist type, I was dropped at about age 20 by a girl who just used me to get into a group until she could be comfortable with that. She very coldly contacted me, used me to get into the group, then very coldly dropped me. I think she was cold, never thought of the term narcissist.
It was probably the best thing that ever happened to me, and maybe you. After she dropped me, I saw her going after bigger fish, probably seeking after the lawyer/doctor type. In a way, the loser may have been the last guy in the chain who she married, and found out a year or two later what kind of person she was.
You sound like you've already figured this guy out, with his narcissistic tendencies, and his narcissistic discard, which I'm reading says is the person he first covets, then treats badly, then he drops for another love interest.
Did he treat you badly toward the end of the relationship?