Can't stop imagining the worst...

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   Posted 10/19/2006 10:34 PM (GMT -6)   
I am wondering if anyone else has this problem... I cannot stop worrying about terriible things that will probably never happen. I have a very young son and I think that a lot of the anxiety is from worrying about him. I have such anxiety over the worrying that it is taking a toll on my day to day life. I mostly worry about something bad happening to me and how it would affect my son. For example, I have worried about someone breaking into my house, throwing my son down the stairs and then attacking me (raping me). I worry that my son would be hurt and I wouldn't be able to get him. I worry about what would happen to him if I passed out in our home during the day. I wonder if we would be okay until my husband got home at night. I also get fixated on things I hear on the news or the internet. For example, I heard a blurb of a terrible story about child ****ography last night on the news involving infants. I become fixated on what a terrible life those children have and what would happen if my son were kidnapped and brought into that life. The men who were arrested seemed like normal men and I wonder if people around me could be involved in horrific things.  I have found a website that you can search for sex offenders in your area and now I am worried because there are some within a few miles of my home. I find myself wondering if I should drive by their homes to see exactly how far they are from me. I know all of this sounds crazy. I try to tell mself that these thoughts are not normal and it's just anxiety but they are still popping into my head. I am currently taking 10 mg of Celexa but I was trying to wean off of it because I would like to have more children. I am planning on looking for a therapist to talk to because I cannot take all of this worrying. I guess what I am wondering is does other people worry about this kind of stuff? Thanks for listening.

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   Posted 10/20/2006 2:10 AM (GMT -6)   
Hon, it's normal to be concerned about your child's welfare.

I freak out when I think about the stuff you mentioned that could perhaps happen to my (almost) 4 year old god daughter. She is such a sweetheart and I don't know what I would do if something bad happened to her.

I get bad thoughts like what if my parents are going to pass away or what if someone close passes away. But you have to push those thoughts aside and clear your mind. I don't watch the news because of how horrid the world is becoming.

I just can't watch it.

I myself have looked up sex offenders in my area too, for my own safety. I want to know what they look like so if I ever get approached by one of them I will stay clear outta their way and run to a safe spot lol.

I get paranoid at the thought of someone breaking in too, sometimes I walk around my house late at night checking all the locks and looking out the windows for shadows of people trying to case my house.

But then I never see anyone, so I try to sleep.

These thoughts are definately due to anxiety and outside influences. Just try to relax and talk to a therapist.

So to answer your question, I do worry about this stuff, but I try to push it away from my mind as it isn't healthy to worry about every tiny thing in my life.

(hard process I know) I've started CBT and am on Lexepro and Ativan which slows my thoughts, rather than thinking too much about everything.

I hope you find the help you need hon.

I'm here for you if you need me.

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   Posted 10/20/2006 5:38 AM (GMT -6)   
First Welcome to HW you have found a great support system with fantastic peeps here
they will do all they possibly can to help you out in your times of need
I too do or did alot of "stinking thinking" but not the about rape and violence
 I worry about the what ifs when I go and what will happen to my Cait
And now just after losing mom I worry about dad being next
I am constanly worried about something or was I should say
CBT relaxation and alot of other thechniques have helped me tremendously
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You sure are not alone in this but you must or should find ways to cope with all of it ..........
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Post Edited (Howlyncat) : 10/20/2006 4:43:16 AM (GMT-6)

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   Posted 10/20/2006 7:05 AM (GMT -6)   
I get those thoughts from time to time. It happens when I read about something or hear about something tragic or if something happens to someone I know.

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   Posted 10/20/2006 7:17 AM (GMT -6)   
Welcome to HW where you will find pleanty for support and compassion from everyone here. I had the same fears when my son's were little now have them with my grandchildren I am very over protective of all of them. It is normal to have these feelings as a mother because it is our instinc to protec our off spring. This my sound funny but even wild animals know to protect there babies. So don't worry yourself sick over this were here if you ever need to talk. 
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   Posted 10/20/2006 8:40 AM (GMT -6)   
I am a grandma ,and like you I think of all those horrible things  happening to my three grandaughters . so i sympathise with you .I AM TRYING TO BLOCK THOSE THOUGHTS OUT .Iworry about everthing .so i just try to keep busy .i have recently taken a part time job ,I am 74  and very active .I sympathise with you because I know what its like .god bless you my thoughts are with you ,big hugs000

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   Posted 10/20/2006 11:01 AM (GMT -6)   
Welcome to HW were so happy to have you here. You will find lots of support and friends here. It is so nice to hear your still have good health at 74 you must be quite a women  I can't wait to get to read more of your post. You may want to start a new post and do a introduction. A lot of members will miss it here.  We also have chat rooms you can visit at anytime there just above on the blue line just hit chat and your welcome in any room. Again welcome to HW. If you need any assistance please just ask anyone and they will be more then happy to help.
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   Posted 10/20/2006 11:16 AM (GMT -6)   
Thank you for your posts. It helps to know that I am not alone with these thoughts. Today I took comfort in reading your posts and have been trying really heard at blocking things out. I also made a phone call to a therapist to see about getting an appointment. I did find it interesting about how many people worry about death too. Before I was worrying about all of the terrible things I mentioned, I was fixated on worrying when my parents would
die. My father has to remind me that I started worrying about that 10+ years ago and he is still alive so I basically wasted 10 years worrying! Since I was a child I always had a fear that if bad things happen to people, why couldn't they happen to me?? I hope my son doesn't grow up with these anxieties too.

Howlyncat - I am sorry for the loss of your mother. This must be an very hard time for you. My thoughts are with you.

Alwaysanxious - I guess the worry doesn't stop huh? Take care and my thoughts are with you as well.

Thanks for listening.

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   Posted 10/20/2006 2:59 PM (GMT -6)   
Welcome to HW buttons, im not always that way, but lately, yeah, i cant stop thinking the worst of things.....for me and my kids. My daughter is preg, and cant keep anything down, and i found i have a cyst on my left ovary, not huge, but takes up most of the ovary on that side. So its hard to keep postitive, but please do, we can make it, and we will eventually feel great! hang in there, and keep posting, there are wonderful great ppl who care here, i dont know what id do without them lately. ;)
take care, best wishes
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