Anxiety and Depression

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Date Joined Feb 2006
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   Posted 11/7/2006 6:26 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi all -
I'm a bit confused.  I've been over at the depression board for a while, but my therapist recently gave me a book which sent me for a tail spin.  In this book I recognized some of my thinking patterns as anxiety.  I've never thought of myself as being anxious.  I've always just thought I was "stressed" or "nervous" or "worried" and when I started getting "freaked out" and I would clamp it shut.  I would tell myself that I needed to stop, that "worring" wasn't going to solve anything and I would just toss those thoughts away. 
A woman I went to grad school told me that she had an anxiety.  It was one of things she always talked about.  And after I opened that book, I couldn't help but think that I've become this woman who was constantly "freaked out" all the time about everything.  I mean the world revolved around her and the all the mediactions she was taking and if you weren't talking to her about how she felt or what she was doing then she wasn't interested in what you had to say.
The week after I opened that book I was completely anxious.  My heart raced, but I couldn't concentrate.  I was worried over everything and couldn't possibly make any decisions.  (I went into a local book store to find more info and I had no idea there were so many books on the topic - where does one begin?)
I realize that there are many different types of anxiety, (I've only begun doing my research), but I need a little support to keep going.  How does one pull out of this cycle of dealing with both anxiety and depression, since it seems to me that they feed into each other.  Any helpful hints or suggestions would be greatly appreciated!
Many thanks!

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Date Joined Oct 2006
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   Posted 11/7/2006 7:02 PM (GMT -6)   
I know how you feel. My family doctor told me I had depression. So I looked up some depersonalization symptoms I had and went to a psychiatrist (msp?). He said i have depersonalization because I am axious and trying to run away from my stress. So it depersonalization, anxiety, and depression!
I am not trying to become one of those people who talk about their conditions all the time!LOL! It's annoying and even more depressing.
I am trying to pull out of this too. I am just reading books and trying to "get happy".LOL
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Date Joined Jun 2006
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   Posted 11/7/2006 10:24 PM (GMT -6)   
My personality type made me a perfect candidate for anxiety. I have always had really high standards for myself (I'd have to be the perfect mom, wife, employee, daughter, etc), which I would then apply to those around me too. Needless to say, I'd often be disappointed (which would often lead to arguments). I worry alot - normal situations would escalate in my mind to major tragedies.

I never realized this about myself until my first panic attack led me to a psycologist. Through Cognitive Behavior Therapy and relaxation, my eyes were opened (somewhat) to what I was doing. But it was a year later when post-partum depression and a resurgance of A/P made me seek medication that I REALLY realized how stressed and self destructive I was!

For the first time since I was a teenager I could set aside responsibilities and take time to have fun. The dishes, vacuuming, picking up after the kids, etc. were no longer things that HAD to be done before I could allow myself some fun time.

I strongly recommend therapy for CBT. The relaxation (my doc also did self-hypnosis) also helps alot. I found it really difficult at first - my patterns were SO ingrained they felt normal to me. Having the one-on-one guidance and support was critical for me - I couldnt have done it alone.

If therapy alone doesnt work for you (and ther is nothing to say it cant), there are meds that can help you along the rest of the way. With anxiety, patience is not just a virtue - its a neccessity. So hang in there and keep plugging away - you're already headed in the right direction!


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   Posted 11/8/2006 6:45 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi sadsong...the big difference between you and the woman you speak of is that you already have in place the skill to switch off your anxiety feelings and move on...which is a major advantage!
It's good that you are researching your condition and that you are seeing a therapist but try not to get too bogged down with other peoples issues - pays to stick to your own I figure :)


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   Posted 11/8/2006 8:20 AM (GMT -6)   
Many times Depression and Anxiety are confused ........
You can have one or the other or both

I totally agree that you are doing what is right for you
keep it up.........
keep asking questions and researching various types of anxiety as well as the simularities and Differences between the 2 ............
I know there will be more answerig your post
I dont suffer with depression other than perhaps once a yr or les and I am an A/P sufferer
Sorry I cannot be any more help
You take care and
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   Posted 11/15/2006 6:24 PM (GMT -6)   
Thanks to all who responded.  It seems to me, that I have both anxiety and depression, since I tend to avoid things that cause me anxiety and also tend to focus on all the negative things that have happened or could happen.  I've started to read a book entitled "What Would Aristotle Do?", which looks at how rational thinking can solve emotional problems.  I've only gotten through the first two chapters or so and it seems pretty interesting, but it's kinda hard to get excited about, since its more theorical than anything. 
On a postive note, I did write down a list (in order of priority) of the things that I want to work on with my therapist.  But, my next appointment isn't until next Wednesday. 
I also recently got a bill from my health insurance saying that they hold the right to determine how much they will pay and they have determined that they will not pay $x amount.  What a crock of ****!  I mean it took a lot of courage to call up different therapists, find someone that I got along well with, and actually follow through with an appointment.  To not pay for a visit, just seems ridiculous to me, especially when I called the insurance company before I went to my first appointment to find out all of the details (like how many times I can go, if my therapist needed to submit a treatment plan, etc.)  I was told that I had a great plan and I can go as many times as I wanted and when I got close to the maximium number of visit they would let me know!  So, it seems absolutely ridiculous not to let me know they won't pay until now, since I've been seeing the same therapist for 4 months!  I've tried to call the insurance company a bunch of times, but I just keep getting a busy signal.  GRRRRRRR!
I'm more frustrated than anything right now, so thanks for listening.  Hopefully I can get the insurance thing straightened out before my next visit, cause I can't fork over a bunch of extra money to keep going!
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