Hi. It's great that you are in touch with this. My advice...sit her down, hold her hand, tell her everything that you LOVE and LIKE about
her and then tell her that you would feel better if the two of you had a more interdependent relationship. Explain to her that you believe the relationship will be stronger as a result. Tell her about
your anxiety. I've dated some "committment phobes" whom I believe the emotional intimacy was like a claustraphobic standing in an elevator full of people, they never explained it that way -- they blamed me. You can't have it both ways but you CAN find common ground. With women it is often HOW YOU SAY IT, rather than what you say, so be very loving. If you approached me like this, I would want to give you the moon! Good luck.
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