Janet- so sorry to hear you are having a rough time!! I remember when I first went on Zoloft, it was so tough waiting it out to see if it would work!! Everyone kept telling me things would get better, and all I could say was "when?". But, things WILL work out for you- whether it is through the Paxil or another med.
I know what you mean about the nights being the only peaceful time- I'm right there with you now on that one!! And I'm 47- so I'm right there with you on the menopausal thing. But, again, we know that we can't feel this way forever- and the docs will find the way to help you.
Hang in there and know that I am thinking of you!!