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Sad & Angry
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Date Joined Dec 2005
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   Posted 12/14/2006 5:50 PM (GMT -6)   
Yesterday my brother called me in the middle of the night. And it was because of my mother who gets him to call. He only calls when my mother wants something, and that is money!
This really infuriates me. My mother never cared about me or my life. She abused me so much and now, she tries to manipulate me into providing for her! And she will use anyone to get at me. This really infuriates me. I have such a hard time telling her off. She has been such a bully to me, that I am so afraid of her. I have been so repressed.
Right now I am looking for work and I have no way of giving her anything. In any case I don't want to do anything for her, because she has money, but she tries to live beyong her means and that's why she tries to get from me. And somehow she really drives me nuts!!! and so angry....
I have told her in the past in a tactful way that I have no way of providing for her, but she just ignores the letters I send and gets my brother to call. This affects me emotionally....

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Date Joined Mar 2005
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   Posted 12/14/2006 6:19 PM (GMT -6)   

I suggest you write mother a letter, telling her what you told us and go into more detail

also tell her you will no longer talk to brother about helping her

for what its worth, both my parents were bullies and very bad parents and contributed much to my anxiety problems

recovered former longtime anxiety and panic attack sufferer and helper of other sufferers  but no training or  qualifications in medicine or psychology, any remarks that may be taken as advice must be confirmed with doctor or other health professional

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Date Joined Jun 2005
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   Posted 12/14/2006 7:49 PM (GMT -6)   
The only way to make yourself feel better and get it across to her is to be bold. Harry is right. I would also let her know you did not appriciate the abuse. Let her know that you are a better person then that. I know it would make anyone angry to have to deal with that but it really sounds like you need to get it off your chest. good luck Barb

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Date Joined Jul 2006
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   Posted 12/14/2006 8:59 PM (GMT -6)   
I'm so sorry your mother is putting you and your brother thru this but hun you have to let it go. Carrying this anger is hurting you hun. I decided years ago that my dad ruined my childhood I be darn if I would allow him to ruin my adult hood. I swore he would pass a lonely sad old man and he did. Please don't let your mother continue to have this affect on your life hun. She will as long as she feels she can. You don't have to say nothing to her...just turn and walk away...she can't hurt you anymore. You are your own person now and there are other people that love you for who you are.
I have an illness, My illness don't have me.
Being happy doesnt mean everything's perfect.It means you've decided to see beyound the imperfrctions!God didn't promise days without pain, laughter without sorrow, sun without rain, but HE did promise strength for the day, comfort for the tears & light for the way                                        



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Date Joined Oct 2006
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   Posted 12/14/2006 10:01 PM (GMT -6)   
I have experienced being around people who seem to always bring you down. I realized the only way to protect yourself from frusteration/pain/anger is to understand a come to terms with the fact that they are not important enough to make you that angry. If they were that important and worth the time, they wouldn't make you angry because they would care enough not to. Hope you feel better and just remember that sometimes you CAN'T let people or someone get to you who you know isn't good for you...even if it is your Mother.
Learn from other people's mistakes because you won't have time to make them all yourself.

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