Thank you, thank you, all for your messages.
It was just weeks ago, that I was able to come out of the depression by changing medication and by taking Effexor. And this hits me. I have been crying all day, and went to see a lawyer but decided to go to the library instead and did my own research about what I am going to do. As I don't have a job etc and what my options are.
The situation is, my children who are teens caught him with the other woman yesterday in the mall and then followed them to a restaurant. Of course my daughter (18) had lashed out at her (other woman). When he came home I didn't want him in the house, but he said he has a right to be and stayed. (The house is in both our names) But he was drinking heavily and trying to get around the children.
I am not going to poison my children against their father. I had a difficult life with my parents who didn't divorce, but had a horrible home atmosphere, with daily fights, etc.... And I happened to be the receiving end of that hate that was going around by my mother.
As many of you have suggested, I am not going to spring any divorce actions until after Christmas. I know that both of them have been looking forward for it.
Right now, I don't know what my legal rights are, and if I can ask him to get out of the house.. ...etc. I don't want him here, specially because of his drinking. But yesterday I felt a strength that I never seen before, because I was ready to call the police if he became abusive...
Through all this, I know I have 2 great children, and I just don't want them to get affected by all this. I am in so much pain, and I know I will only go back to depression again....
Sad & Angry