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Date Joined Jan 2007
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   Posted 1/4/2007 12:26 AM (GMT -6)   
I'm new to this board and I'm having a hard time trying to figure out what to write.  I have a plethora of problems..... depression, GAD and  panic disorder to name a few. I just found this place in a desperate search to find people who can relate to me. I don't expect a big response but I feel as though no one else knows what I'm going through as I'm sure you have all felt at one time or another, that why I'm here.
I won't bore you with specific details but I've been experiencing problems with anxiety and depression since I was 15 years old after my father passed away when I was 13. I will be 34 on Jan. 5th. For about 3 years or so, 27-30 yrs old, I've had things somewhat under control with out meds (I've been on so many).  I had my first child at 29 and then my second at 31.
Everything started up again after that. I'm sure this re-occurrence of anxiety has something to do with stress.
Has anyone, primarily females, ever had their hormone levels checked? Or have had any triggers like big changes that make your life turn into a living hell again? I don't have insurance so I haven't been able to go to the doctor to have my hormones checked. I've only been able to get by with my mental health care through the gov. My Mother told me about an author that actually wrote a book about how her life (and sex life) change dramatically after taking hormone therapy.
Just a little info about some stuff, I hope this can be useful to someone. My finance of 9 years and having two children with has been at his wits end with me. Tired of the complaining of body pains, feeling of dieing and loosing my mind and no interest in sex. I'm not sure what to do. It's so hard to get out of bed every day to take care of the children and home. Nothing seems to have helped. Therapy, drugs, mind over body....?
I'm trying to hang in there. Best of luck to you all.

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Date Joined Sep 2006
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   Posted 1/4/2007 6:41 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi Pher,
Welcome to healingwell!  You are definitely not alone, and you've come to the right place to find others just like you.  I've had panic, anxiety and agoraphobia for 17 years on and off.  I was to a point where I was great for a few years and then this setback hit and it's a bad one.  So, it definitely can come and go.  Mine started right after my daughter was born, so it could be the hormonal changes, or more likely the stress.  Raising two children is stressful too, plus dealing with a partner who is not always supportive or understanding...you have quite a bit of stress to deal with right now when you look at it. 
I've never had my hormonal level checked, so I can't help you there.  For me, it's been stress and big life changes that have affected my panic/anxiety the most.  I do see a therapist, and use xanax to get through the really tough times.  I also like to read Claire Weekes books as they are very comforting for me. 
Hope you feel welcome here and will post again!
Happy Birthday !!!

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Date Joined Jan 2005
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   Posted 1/4/2007 8:03 AM (GMT -6)   
WELCOME and Happy Birthday ( early) to you
I am glad you found us here at HW
This is the place to come for support and the ppl are the best
SAY what you feel and need to get out
Here there is NO judgement only acceptance and support as well as empathy..........
Junebug has given some great input so I wont re interate but I will tell you this
This Disease/diorder is REAL and it can be crippling mentally and physically but here we can help you gain tools to get you thru
My a/p got worse with another alcoholic hubby and abusive ( mentally ) relationship as well just after my daughter was born
Our hormones can play a big part in this as well
I would consider having your doc check your levels and also let him know what is really going on inside you
You cannot stay like this and it is better to be treated IMO
I too hope you will become an active member in this forum and see the care and support that is always here for ppl
Please look after self and let us know whats going on with you
Also there may be some threads yu can post in as well to add your input
Again welcome aboard
Glad you found us please stay with us

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Date Joined Dec 2006
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   Posted 1/4/2007 5:22 PM (GMT -6)   
m pretty new here too and wanted to let you know I understand what its like about husbands/ fiances being at there wits end with something they don't understand. I'm pretty sure my husband thinks that I bring it on so I don't have to do stuff I don't want to *sigh* Anyway welcome and I hope this place helps you, it had already done good things for me.

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Date Joined Sep 2006
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   Posted 1/4/2007 5:57 PM (GMT -6)   

Hi Pher...How about, as a first step towards feeling better, going to your doc and having a full check up..while you are there spill out all your worries about your health - mental, hormonal etc. and see what he/she comes up with..

If you are on meds that don't appear to be working - maybe a change in these would help..and if not on meds at present how about considering the option - and I see from your post that nothing seems to have worked..maybe you just haven't been on the right ones yet..anything is worth a try to help you get through this rough patch :)

You know it's no easy task being a mum :) and we have to try and remember to look after ourselves so we can look after others eh?





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Date Joined Jul 2006
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   Posted 1/4/2007 6:11 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi Pher and welcome, you've found a wonderful forum here with lot's of great people with insights.  Panic is real, and debilitating.  You've had some good advice from everyone and I agree that a medical check up might help.  What medications were you on in the past? Did they help? I'm having a bit of a bad day myself with anxiety, so maybe we can "hang in there" together.   :-) Keep us posted with what happens.
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