I'm sorry I haven't got any advise for you. I just want you to know that I'm praying for you and yours and give you a big hug.
You and me are kind of in the same spot my Dad is dieing from his diabetes and there is nothing I can do about it, but be there by phone since he lives in the lower 48 I know that he only has a few more months to live but every call means more to him knowing that I care for him dearly
I'm sorry that you too are having to deal with this to but your Mother know deep down in her heart that you love her so, and knows you need to heal and can't allways be by her side but every call or visit you do means a lot more then you think to her.
Take care Krissie, I'm alway's there for you girl
Honey I'm so sorry to hear about your mom. I lost my mother to cancer a few years ago and I will let you in on something. I was the one taking care of her but the feelings are still there not being able to help her in anyway other then my voice and love to calm her. Just keep the phone call's going and let her know she can call anytime day or in the middle of the night that you are there for her.
Great idea Misskittie,
Thanks for being here for me. Talk with you and everyone else later, I have to try to get some sleep. With all that has been going on with me and my mom, I don't sleep much at all. It is awful...Just one night, thats all I ask. But until I get better with what is going on with me and I am there for my mom, the psychiatrist says she isn't surprised that I don't sleep, even with the lunesta. Oh well, I don't mean to sound negative, just been a really rough couple of days....I have been hurting like****, and I don't know why, and then the new news with my mom....she already had a tumor in her brain that grew, now another? She is in so much pain, I feel guilty whining about myself and my problems. When I had my colectomy and colostomy, I wanted her so badly, but she couldn't take the drive....I felt so selfish....the priest that I saw every day for two weeks said I wasn't , but I think he was just trying to make me feel better.
You know, I am back in school to get my BA in psych, I already have a BSN in nursing.....but how can I become a therapist or psychologist if I can't even take control of my own life????
Nite for now,
Hon, you ARE taking charge....you are keeping your appointments, going to school, etc. - those are all examples of you taking care of you.
It does make sense that you wanted your mom with you when you had your surgery. Even though I have no contact with my biological family, I remember waking up in recovery after my mastectomies thinking "I want my mommy".
Look to see the good you are doing, both for yourself and for your family. Regain your strength and things one at a time. Alcoholics Anonymous is famous for there "one day at a time" slogan....but I'm here to tell you that sometimes that one day is just too dang much. It's ok to take it an hour at a time, or minutes.....break it up in pieces until it is at a stage you can manage.
I have faith in you - you will make it through all of this and be stronger for it. Keep your dreams in sight.
Love and hugs,