Fear of new job...

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   Posted 2/15/2007 3:00 PM (GMT -6)   
I finally landed a new job!! I start on Monday- and it will be the first time in 19 years that I will be working full-time (worked part-time while my children were growing up). I am VERY grateful for the job, but, of course, being someone with A/P, I am soooooooooooo nervous!! I hate being the "new kid on the block" and having to prove myself (I took a pay cut, but am being reviewed in 30-45 days, with the hopes of some benefits and a raise at that time.) I am trying to keep busy until Monday, as when I think about starting the job, I am almost paralyzed with fear. Having had the same job for the last 18 years, the thought of starting anew is so hard (definitely was in a "comfort zone" at this previous job- and was always praised for doing a great job). Any suggestions on how to get through this??? Thanks!!

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   Posted 2/15/2007 5:51 PM (GMT -6)   
First - Congratulations!!! Second - staying busy is good, but maybe take some time to visualise how your first day will go.  Remember that everyone is terribly nervous to start.  Even us with the extra panic skills! I find it helps to take something from home...a good luck charm, and when things get tough you can take it out and remember that you are safe and loved.  My mother lends me her favourite ring when I have to do something difficult and that always gets me through.  I wish you all the best of luck, and remember...breath!!

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   Posted 2/15/2007 7:40 PM (GMT -6)   

  Hay that's great news a.l.

  Like Meg said take your learning skills with you and just breath.

 I myself like to take a coin with me and just keep turning around in my hand and no one really cares about it as I'm doing this when I have to talk to other ppl when my anxiety starts to kick in

  Good luck with the new job

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   Posted 2/15/2007 8:51 PM (GMT -6)   
Congrats!! You sound excited too... hope that means you found the job that may be comparable to the old one?

Best of Luck!

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   Posted 2/15/2007 9:37 PM (GMT -6)   
Congrads!  I bet you'll do great because you sound like your a very qualified employee.  Good luck.

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   Posted 2/16/2007 1:28 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi a.l. -- CONGRATULATIONS! I knew you would land on your feet. Fasten your seatbelt b/c I believe that God has a new adventure for you. Don't worry...enjoy your time off. You are going to do GREAT.
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   Posted 2/16/2007 7:11 AM (GMT -6)   
I am so Happy for you
That coin trick would work well
hmmmmm might be something I could use during TX's
I am so proud of you like the " everyready battery " you just kept going n going til ya did it
Keep us posted hun and again congrats
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   Posted 2/16/2007 7:53 AM (GMT -6)   
Congrats honey this is great news and you will do great there. I am so happy to hear you are turning your life around I knew you could do it. yeah
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   Posted 2/16/2007 11:14 AM (GMT -6)   

Wow-thank you all soooooooooooooo much for your support-it literally brought tears to my eyes!!!!! I woke up this morning with major anxiety (which has not happened to me for several weeks), but coming on this board has really helped me!! You are all such caring, loving people-wish I had a magic wand to make us all "better"! In the meantime, I saw an ad in a local paper for a job that sounds really neat- but I have to convince myself that I made a committment to the job I accepted, and I have to go that route (the one I accepted does seems like a good job, but the one is the ad sounds much more exciting-oh well....not that I would even get the one in the ad anyway...) Right now I would just love to crawl in a corner and suck my thumb-LOL- but I know that is not an option. 

To make matters worse, my husband is doing a temp job that he absolutely hates- the people there are really lazy and are giving him most of the work to do-he can't say anything, though, because he needs the paycheck!! Hopefully he will find something permanent soon, so he can give up the temp job. He's been out of work for almost 10 months- wish he would find something so that he can gain his confidence back!!

Well, thanks for letting me vent again, and thanks again for all of your posts- I know I should just be grateful for finding the job and "cowboy up"! tongue tongue tongue

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   Posted 2/18/2007 12:54 PM (GMT -6)   
Well, I start tomorrow, and woke up with major anxiety this morning- my body felt paralyzed!! I just want to cry! I feel like I should be really excited about this, and if I didn't have A/P, I probably would be!! But after being at the same job for 18 years, the idea of starting anew truly scares me!!! At 47, I feel like a kid who is facing separation anxiety as he goes off to preschool!! I feel like such a big baby, and am having a terrible time looking at this as a new beginning! People around me are saying how exciting this is, and yet I don't feel that way!! I don't want to arrive at work tomorrow feeling like I can't cope- I think that will make it harder to learn a new job. I know I should focus on being very grateful that I found a job (and I am grateful), but I am so scared!!

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   Posted 2/18/2007 2:02 PM (GMT -6)   
I'm sorry things are so tough for you at the moment. I know how that feels, I got a job for the first time in 16 years back in October, just part time, something to help me keep my mind busy when I was at my worst. I just told myself that I am doing this for "me" and no one else. That helped me some.

I think once you get there you will be fine and settle in just fine. Just try to relax....I know, much easier said than done.

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   Posted 2/18/2007 3:11 PM (GMT -6)   
Congrats on the job. It is nervewracking starting a new job, especially with a/p but I'm sure once you get there and relax a bit you might find that you start to enjoy it.

Good luck and let us know how your first day goes.

Victoria x

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