A bit of a rant, bleh

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   Posted 3/15/2007 5:25 PM (GMT -6)   
While I'm looking for work I decided I'd try out some volunteering in a hospital, just to pass the time and gain some experience. Thing is, I've been placed on a ward where a woman works who I just can't stand to be around.
I know I can probably easily ring up the woman who's arranged my placement and ask to do the volunteering elsewhere, but this stupid anxiety I have holds me back. I'm afraid that I'll be causing a major upheaval, even though I know that I have a right to at least ask to do the experience elsewhere. I'm really proud of myself for organising this volunteering placement in the first place, a couple of months ago I could barely pick up the phone because of nerves. Although I'm better now at talking to people I do find it difficult to stick up for myself and to argue my case. I'm thinking about just ditching the whole thing altogether because I've been doing quite well in improving my confidence around people and I'm worried that a negative outcome could undo all the positive things.
Reading all that back it seems like such a minor thing and in actual fact I know that it is minor....I just really wish that my brain would realise this and stop twisting it into a massive dilemma which gets me worried and stops me from sleeping. It's this which upsets me the most, I always take things too seriously and the most minor of things can seem like a massive, impossible hurdle. I wish I had more self-esteem and would stop feeling as though I'm a burden on other people.  

Post Edited (polly_pet) : 9/17/2007 3:15:40 AM (GMT-6)

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   Posted 3/16/2007 1:43 PM (GMT -6)   
you could send her a note

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   Posted 3/16/2007 1:45 PM (GMT -6)   
'Overthinking' alert polly...
Fantastic that you are gonna do volunteer work...don't let this woman steal your dream...nothing has happened yet - and if it does..then you have every right to complain, because she will have been totally unprofessional in pursuing any negative confrontation with you :-)
Always be polite..smile sweetly even if you have to paint it on for a while..once she sees that you are not holding a grudge and that you are 'over it' she will just have to be nice too. Besides it was between her daughter and you - not her!
It doesn't matter what we do in this world there is always someone to challenge our patience eyes
If you don't feel you can take on this challenge just now...by all means ring the woman that made the placement and explain..I am sure she can sort out another one for you..too bad if she has to bend over backwards lol..it's her job to sort these things out lol.
Take good care.
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   Posted 3/16/2007 3:49 PM (GMT -6)   
Totally agree on the overthinking hun
Dont let it break you and stop the good you have been able to achieve by Volunteeing
Just carry on beig your kind self and do what you need to do I am sure it is avoidable the clashing by you being the ADULT here and not rising to any bait
Let us know how you make out please and KUDOS for the Volunteering it really is worth it .....
You take care....Hold head high k
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   Posted 3/16/2007 5:07 PM (GMT -6)   
Thanks for all your thoughts everyone. I think I'm actually going to ring the organiser up on Monday and ask if I can postpone it all for a while, I don't feel stable enough to be in an environment where it's bound to be hostile and confrontational. With all the anxiety I think I would be an emotional wreck, it sounds pathetic but even a minor negative experience can hit me really bad and trigger a low point. Plus I am a carer for my ill father so perhaps it's too much to take on at the moment anyway, I can imagine myself struggling a bit. I just hope she's understanding.
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