Games at weddings - how to deal?

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   Posted 4/1/2007 12:54 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi Everyone,
i have 5 weddings to go to this year.... and of course i'm petrified of the standing and making conversation at the cocktail hour... Also.... the GAMES that the DJ Plays.... this is when my heart starts beating tremendsly!!!!!!! you can't leave because everyone is seated......

any suggestions?

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   Posted 4/1/2007 4:25 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi Jessr
5 wonderful to be invited ~ you obviously must have friends that think the world of you and wish you to come along and celebrate their special day :-)
We all get nervous when we are out of our comfort zone...
Do you have to stay for the whole wedding? Can you pick and choose which parts to attend? Do you have friends going to the same weddings that you can arrange to meet there..easier when you have someone to yap to...Do you have meds that you are able to take to calm the nerves if you should need to?
You might find that the first wedding is the hardest one to cope with..but after that you will know what to expect and it will get easier..
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   Posted 4/1/2007 4:37 AM (GMT -6)   

I agree with jordaNZone on this one. (You always have such good advise!).

Having a friend that you can 'buddy-up' with is a really good idea. "A problem shared, is a problem halved". Im not sure where the phrase comes from but its definately true. Although you might find that the first is really difficult for you, as you get to the fourth and fifth wedding you may even get to enjoy it! I think its great that you have friends that want you at their wedding and im sure they will understand if you start to feel a little uncomfortable.

The only other problem is deciding what to wear! tongue

Good luck


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   Posted 4/1/2007 1:45 PM (GMT -6)   
yes, i have to stay for the whole wedding, i am really close with the couple, my husband is in the wedding!
which makes it even more awkward for me!... because he wont be with me..
and none of my "Friends" are really there, its all his friends, which i dont get to see very often, which makes it even more awkward!!!!! how can i just run out of a converstaion, if i am starting to feel light headed faint!
it sucks being me, sometimes!
i wish i could just enjoy myself!

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   Posted 4/1/2007 2:13 PM (GMT -6)   
I think Maree gave you great advise and if you dont know anyone there might try to buddy up with someone who looks or has the same look of anxiety /panic as you do
REMEMBER many ppl suffer from this in silence so I am sure there will be many there that are out of their "comfort zone" as well ......and you will see it .....
* if you do start feeling light headed or faint just say excuse me and go outside for a few minutes and collect yourself ...*
Do you have meds you can take with you or even one that will be able to be taken prior to the wedding ......
If not perhaps you can explain to your doc that you have all these weddings to go to and I am sure that he/she will no doubt give you a RX of a fast acting med for a short temr
THis could help you out
As well you may want to start the online Cognitive behavioural Therapy .......
I have found it has helped me out greatly in dealing with many situations I could not deal with before
Please keep us posted on how you are doing

Be well
LYN and if you want the online CBT workshop/workbook let us know

I agree that you have so many friends out be invited to all these weddings ........

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   Posted 4/1/2007 3:17 PM (GMT -6)   

weddings are difficult for anxiety sufferers, remember that you arent the one who is getting married and that all eyes will be on the bride and groom

usually an extra large dose of valium will help a lot, along with relaxation methods such as deep slow breathing

dont drink much alcahol as it can react with the valium

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