Can anyone relate? stress!!!

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   Posted 4/20/2007 2:12 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi everyone.  I am new here.  I am a 30-ish yo guy that is generally a happy go lucky person.  Lately, i feel like i am falling apart!!!
I have a job that is very stressful.  12-15hr days.  Tremendous responsibility.  Demanding boss.  Moreover, my wife is giving birth to our first child soon.  I love my job and I am excited to have a baby.  That said, I am a mess.
I do have a history of GAD/OCD, but my physical symptoms are terrible...and weird, i think.  You tell me.
Edgy most of the time (alcohol helps)
Constantly in the bathroom (more bowel movements/urination than seems normal)
I sweat a lot
My face feels hot a lot
My ears feel hot...and get red at times
I want to crawl out of my feels more sensitive (like a mild sunburn - prickly)
I sleep less
I bite my nails
I snap at people
I am more forgetful
I overreact
I keep buying things...spending more money than I should
Does this sound like normal symptoms of stress?  Can anyone relate?  The hot feeling bothers me the most.
I exercise constantly (almost every day and feel terrible if I don't).  I hardly have any fat on me.  My blood pressure is fine.
I am basically a happy and fit guy that suffers from anxiety and now is having these symptoms...which I am assuming related to stress.  Maybe I was able to cope for awhile, but now it's just getting to be too much.  Maybe?

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   Posted 4/20/2007 4:19 PM (GMT -6)   

it all sounds like stress

when exercising, relax the muscles and think of letting go of the tension, this should reduce it. exercise the muscles with long slow movements with effort in both directions, avoid 'pumping iron 'type exercises

what meds have helped in the past? a small dose of a beta blocker and valium as needed should help

try a hot tub or jacuzzi, relaxing the body also relaxes the mind

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   Posted 4/20/2007 4:34 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi Nikon and welcome to Healingwell,
WOW!!! You have a lot of stuff in your day! 12-15hrs a day at work is enough to see most people off. If your exercising on top of that as well as time spent eating etc... If you take 13 hrs working, 1 hr exercising, 1 hr eating and 3 hrs for miscellaneous stuff (Washing/Showering etc...) that only leaves you 6 hrs to sleep... and thats assuming you get off to sleep straight away. Combine that with the natural stress of becoming a father (I have no experience hear, but I have been told its very stressful) and you have a very stressful lifestyle. Have you coped like this for a long time or is this whole lifestyle a relatively new thing? IMO I would try and cut back on something. This might be a good quick short-term solution which could work long-term as well.
I take my hat off to you. But I think now is the time to maybe think about your health before it becomes a bigger problem.  
Take care and don't work too hard! lol
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   Posted 4/20/2007 5:03 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi and Welcome to HW
Sounds just like Harry has said ......stress have alot you are dealing with right now and becoming a parent is a big step in life BUT I am sure you will do just fine ....parenting doesnt come with a handbook you have instincts and they will come into play real soon

Is there a way to cut back a bit on work and also on SPENDING.....have you always overspent or is this something new??

I use to but I have now got a handle on it
I had to because I ahve to support a teen daughter and that is expensive to say the least lol

I hope you can come to some discissions where it works out bettr for you and for your baby coming
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   Posted 4/20/2007 5:34 PM (GMT -6)   
I agree, you must be totally stressed out. A workaholic, if there is such a thing. I don't know much about this as I vacillate between workaholic/slacker enough that work never really gets to me on any long term level. But you may try some sort of meditation like yoga. Again, I know nothing about this, but that's my intuitive response. You may also consider a vacation. Try coming to Texas and just hang out on a remote beach. The Gulf isn't exactly gorgeous, but the waves are still there and that sound is just naturally relaxing. It's very laid back here. Just a change of pace might do you some good.

Your handle is Nikon, leading me to believe you're a photography enthusiast. MAKE time for it. Set those things for manual and tackle a difficult lighting situation. You'll have to slow down and think about composition and how you want to meter it. Do a study of an object or building.

Just some suggestions. Hope you feel better soon!

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Date Joined Apr 2007
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   Posted 4/21/2007 10:00 PM (GMT -6)   
thanks! i am doing my best dealing with this.

...OCD doesn't help

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   Posted 4/21/2007 10:57 PM (GMT -6)   
Hey i used to get all of your symptoms and sometimes it felt like i just couldn't deal with anything. I have gad and i'm bi polar. What helped me was getting on the right medications and it took a long time to try all the different ones and mix and match but i do hate that i have to take so much. Therapists help too or support groups. Some things like meditation have helped me too i hope you feel better soon!
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