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Date Joined Dec 2006
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   Posted 5/4/2007 5:53 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi all,
I have had anxiety for years.  I usually just have a flare up once ina while and can easily deal with it.  My husband and I have been planning a vacation for the last 6 months.  We have had a really tough year (my compnay was sold and my father died) and have been looking so forward to this trip.  This oast Monday I woke up with a sore under one of my arm, it ended up being a large sore (boil) which ended up by Wednesday being so painful that I didn't go to work.  Of course I started thinking that this trip was going to be really tough when I couldn't even move my arm at all.  Thursday I went to the Dermatologist and suffered through the pain of a local and him trying to surgically trying to open the cyst.  After a rather large incision, to his surprise and mine the cyst wouldn't drain.  Again, I said we weren't able to go, I just didn't see the point in going and feeling terrible.  Last night after tossing and turning I finally decided I needed to go to the ER, the pain was unbearable and I couldn't take it anymore.  I won't go into specifics but the cyst drained and right away I felt better.  My husband was less than thrilled at 3 am when I told him but was happy this morning.  I had until noon today to decide if I felt well enough to go, and I did so I said lets go.  Since then I have had panic attack all day.  I usually have panic attacks when I fly and eventually get on the plane.  I guess I am just amazed that I was so upset earlier in the week that I wasn't able to go now it bothers me that I amnervous and upset that I am going.  Isn't that so worng.  I know it hasn't helped that I haven;t had much sleep inthe last few days and we are rushed getting ready but I am afraid after all this I won't go.  I guess maybe I need some moral support if anyone has any to offer.

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Date Joined Sep 2006
Total Posts : 119
   Posted 5/4/2007 6:51 PM (GMT -6)   
Here's what I heard:
1. You've had anxiety for years.
2. It's been a stressful, traumatic year
3. You've just gone through quite an ordeal missing work, a failed surgery, severe pain, a trip to the ER in the middle of the night and more surgery.
4. You felt the pressure of an important trip hanging in the balance, not knowing from one day to the next if you should go. You've been experiencing severe worry.
5. You're sleep deprived.

So physically and emotionally you've been though a lot. Those of us with anxiety disorders seem to get caught off guard and before we know it, we've escalated into a period of severe anxiety. The thought patterns that helped get us there in the first place acclerate rapidly to the point where we experience full blown panic. It's worry gone wild.
What is it you're worried about? If you just think logically, does it make rational sense for you to be worried about going on this trip? I doubt it. So one part of your mind is screaming for you to dig in and hide where it's safe (even though it won't be), while the another part of your mind KNOWS that the first is illogical. So you have to make a choice. Stay at home, miserably hating yourself for allowing irrational thoughts to ruin a good thing for you and your husband - or decide that despite the pain you're going to step out, and take a risk. You can't control your brain, but you can control your decisions.
Assuming your doc says it's ok for you to travel, I can see no reason why you shouldn't go. YOU NEED TO GET OUT OF YOUR HEAD! GO! Let the sun shine on your face! Drink in the sights never before seen - notice the details. Feel the floor under your feet. Love your husband. There are good things REGARDLESS of how you feel!
Now that part of your brain system is worked up, it may take some time to come back down. Has your doc prescribed any meds that could help quiet the illogical feelings (Xanax, Klonopin, etc)? Now would be an appropriate time to use them. Visit a trusted counselor and talk it out.
So hit the road! We'll see you when you get back. : )

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Date Joined Mar 2005
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   Posted 5/5/2007 2:06 PM (GMT -6)   

to miwoman

a large dose of any valium type meds will help you enjoy the holiday but I suspect you already know this

recovered former longtime anxiety and panic attack sufferer and helper of other sufferers  but no training or  qualifications in medicine or psychology, any remarks that may be taken as advice must be confirmed with doctor or other health professional
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