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   Posted 6/6/2007 5:50 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi! I go to court on Friday. I never said anything to my family, till a month ago. I only told one brother and one sister. My brother is insisting to go with me Friday, as he feelings I need am imidiate family member with me, not the people dwho are going. Tricia, my SIL worker has to be there, as it happened in the building where I live, and she is in charge of my housing. Gail, my best friend, She was the first person I called when I got back fro Special Victims. She use to be my supervisior where I lived. But once she left, and I left we  became best of friends. That is because she was the one always helping me when I was there.
   I sent my brother an e mail, asking him to respect my wishes and not be at court on Friday. He said he will resect them even though he doesn't agree wwith them. My biggest fear is he is going to show up anyway, as that is what he is like. Can I tell the DA, not to let him in the court room, and that he is not alowed to get any information? I don't know if I can do that, be it don't hurt to ask.
Everyone here has been so so supportive with me with this situation, and I want to thank you from the bottom of my heart.

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   Posted 6/6/2007 5:57 PM (GMT -6)   
I am sure if you talk to your lawyer and he talks to DA or go to the DA self this will help in having brother out of courtroom

Not positive for where you live
I know it goes on all the time here in Ontario
All the best to you

Take care

Thoughts heart and prayers are with you

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   Posted 6/6/2007 8:07 PM (GMT -6)   
Thanks. I will do that. Thank you for keeping me in your thoughts.

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   Posted 6/6/2007 8:12 PM (GMT -6)   

Hey there Butterfly,

I am wondering why you don't want your brother there with you?  Are you afraid he will be angry and want to protect you or wants to know who this man is?

I suspect you don't want to upset your family due to your Father's illness. This is your decision but don't lock out your family trying to protect them.  They are adults and live in the real world. Of course they want to help you.

Either way sweetie you have my support and ((((((((((((HUGS)))))))))) are coming your way so catch them.

Love ya


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   Posted 6/7/2007 11:56 AM (GMT -6)   
I will admit that I don't know your story (must have missed your other threads) but I too encourage you not to lock your family away. Being excluded hurts more than anything. I have a family member who I have always been there for. I know when something is wrong with her and she just pushes everyone away. I guarantee you that whatever I am imagining is wrong is ten times worse then whatever is actually the problem. I am not applying this to you but it is truly selfish for this person in my life to allow me to go on worrying and being concerned. I have never done anything to earn anything but respect and consideration from this person and it hurts to be treated this way.
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   Posted 6/7/2007 12:11 PM (GMT -6)   
i think you need to do whats best for you to get you through court. if that means not having your brother there then do your best to keep him out. that day is about you and what you need. he can be there for you by not being there. and by praying for you. he be there for you at home ready to hold you if you want if or with a cold beer if your old enough and want one. but the day in court you need to just be focused one getting yourself through and no one else. and i'll be praying for you.
I am bipolar, have social anxiety, panic attacks w/agoraphobia , diabetes, asthma and high blood pressure. Life is short but i am not.

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