the general feeling in the panic disorder and agoraphobia self help community is that there are basicly 2 types of sufferers, those who want to get better and those who dont. I agree with this after many years of experience and talking with hundreds of panic attack/ agoraphobia sufferers, some for periods of 15 years
this means there will always be the problem of offending those who dont want to get better when challenging or encouraging those who do or might want to get better.
to those who are offended by my posts, I appologise, but we are here on earth only the 1 time......
an often made suggestion is to have 2 boards, one for those wanting to recover and another for those looking for sympathy and a more easier lifestyle that doesnt include recovery.those controlling this board might consider this
some reasons for not wanting to recover are:
whole life , work, partner and friends have been shaped by avoidance of panicky situations
had it so long that recovery would mean a loss of my personality, who would I become?
loss of financial security, pension, disability and the perhaps need to go out and work
family may only be staying with me out of sympathy and if I recover they may leave
the agoraphobia is wrapped around the sufferer like a cloak that protects from a world that can be cruel and harsh
the panicky feeling in body and mind can be enjoyable and addictive, the adrenalin rush is identical to that got by people who parachute jump, bungee jump, ski downhill very fast, drive cars dangerously fast, white water rafting etc
ordinary people have to pay lots of money but the panic attack sufferer gets it all for free and maybe doesnt even have to leave home
all the above is part of the overall agoraphobia experience or scene and most health professionals dont know it because those who dont want to get better often never seek medical help, or dont mention their agoraphobia when seeing their doctors
So again I apologise to those I offend, but as long as all sufferers are on the one board, its going to happen.
one sufferer became a friend of mine and I agressively challenged her to make an effort to get better, she had all the meds and several self help books which she had memorised. deeply offended, she saw several psychologists until eventually one told her that my version of agoraphobia could be recovered from but hers couldnt
our friendship then resumed
Ive seen many completely recover, including those who had been housebound for years, these people put it all behind them and usually move to a new area to start a new life, they dont visit boards like this one
Ive also recovered, after having it severely for 20 years and never getting an accurate diagnosis or helpful advice, I usually got schizophrenia meds which of course mad it worse. By posting on boards I am unusual
recovered former longtime anxiety and panic attack sufferer and helper of other sufferers but no training or qualifications in medicine or psychology, any remarks that may be taken as advice must be confirmed with doctor or other health professional
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