Panic ruined my planned vacation

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Date Joined Jun 2007
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   Posted 6/20/2007 8:01 PM (GMT -6)   
I was supposed to leave this past Monday for a trip I'd been planning for months.  For at least a month prior I had been having feelings of anxiety about going.  My appetite went away, I lost 8 pounds.  Anything I did manage to eat went right through me.  I have what I call "selective agoraphobia" - if I am traveling outside a distance reachable from home by driving then the selective agoraphobia kicks in.  If it's some place that's a short drive from home, I'm usually OK.  Thing is, I've traveled HUNDREDS of times before and have always been a nervous traveler, but always overcame it with calming self-talk.  This time there was nothing I could do to talk myself into taking this trip and I came up with an outrageous, bold faced lie to the person I was supposed to be traveling with to get out of going on the trip.  The guilt is overwhelming - my travel partner CRIED hysterically (because of the reason I came up with for not being able to go).  If I know what is wrong with me, WHY isn't my mind strong enough to overcome it, ya know???  
I went to my primary care doctor and explained what was going on, she told me I need to see a behavioral therapist for my problem ASAP.  I've made an appointment, I'm just not sure what can be said or done, other than to be told I have to face my problem head on, that that's the only thing that will put me on the path to recovery. 
To look at me, people see an outgoing person who enjoys life.  NO ONE sees the fear that lives on the inside :(

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Date Joined Apr 2007
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   Posted 6/20/2007 10:32 PM (GMT -6)   

Hello S-Kat,

Welcome to Healing Well and to the Anxiety -Panic disorder.

I am  so sorry you had to cancel your vacation plans. 

Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) is a therapy based on modifying everyday thoughts and behaviors, with the aim of positively influencing emotions. This is a very popular therapy and many members have had great suggest with it.

I am not sure which therapy your physician is talking about but there are many good therapies available. It is worth giving it a genuine chance at helping you with your issues.

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Dx: Anxiety/Panic, Depression 
"If you doubt you can accomplish something, then you can’t accomplish it. You have to have confidence in your ability, and then be tough enough to follow through.” 
~Rosalyn Carter

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Date Joined Jun 2007
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   Posted 6/21/2007 1:01 PM (GMT -6)   
Hey there! I too would like to say I am sorry you had to cancel your vacation. Those feelings are terrible, and I am sorry for you! I too am dealing with agoraphobia, and I would like to start calling mine selective agoraphobia as well! :) I can go a little bit around where I live, but not far. And, on a real good day, I can go to the park with my son....

Anyway, enough about me...I have also heard that Cognitive Behavorial Therapy is great, infact I am looking into it myself. So, I just wanted to say Welcome to HEALINGWELL, and put my 2 cents in! Ha ha.

I hope you are feeling well!
Dealing with panic and anxiety for 8 years off and on...right now more on than off.  Major health anxiety as well!
New found issues with agoraphobia...working on that too.
I am NOT weak, I am just down right now.  I am doing what it takes to get my life back!!!
Best Wishes to all...Tammy

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   Posted 6/21/2007 5:02 PM (GMT -6)   


the simple answer is a course of any valium type meds taken before and during the vacation, in an adequate dose, plus some different ways of calming and relaxing yourself

get some self help books on agoraohobia and panic disorder and follow their advice if you can

recovered former longtime anxiety and panic attack sufferer and helper of other sufferers  but no training or  qualifications in medicine or psychology, any remarks that may be taken as advice must be confirmed with doctor or other health professional
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