Thanks for all the advice and keep it coming if you have anymore thoughts or anyone elese as well.
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her work enviroment and friends and siblings; Work: Yes she has work issues. She goes to work, but she worries about
every little thing and she gets into these panics and calls me and ask me questions, but she won't let me answer and just gets mad and more upset. When she takes her Ativan she is much better. She feels dumb and gets upset easily, yet she gets mad easily too and she is kind of paranoid in a way about
it, like they are talking about
her or don't help her enough when she has questions, just different things. She cannot concerntrate on anything. She often feels like she is a failure. She is all over the place, because then she is like I am 21 y/o I know what I am doing. She is on Remeron for depression / anxiety and it definately helps, but she still has these problems. She is not just like this with me: Although she is the worst with me.. She has one brother 17 y/o and honestly, he is way more mature than she is. She gets upset with him too, but other times she is fine with him. She has had a lot of friends, she goes with her friends all the time, it is like she cannot be alone or sit home, she has to be doing something.....anything, but sitting around. A lot of her friends wouldn't be around her for awhile because she was with that guy and they would not be around him ( and I don't blame them), and she has some good friends, but others she shouldn't be around, she doesn't always make good choices. Also, she is always trying to help other people, except for her immediate family, and she has to be in control of things. She always drives for instance. I don't know this has gone on for soooo long, there is a lot of history, too long to write. She doesn't scream at her Daddy, but she will argue with him too. He is pretty loud though, and she listens to him more than anyone, but at the same time like I said earlier, she doesn't follow thru long. We have discussed kicking her out and my husband is really ready to. She has put a real strain on our family, brother included as well as my Mama.
I have told her to leave, and she says she is, but then she gets upset and decides she can do better. She has moved out over the last few years 3 different times at least and ended up coming back home. You can't talk to her she gets irrate. She always has some reason, her nerves are shot, please don't fuss at me, I have to be so and so can we talk later, etc.... etc.... etc.... She doesn't understand, really, i don't care if she goes places often, but I do care that she can't lift a finger here or keep her room clean and pick up after herself and I don't tolerate her hollaring at me and talking ugly to me, We have gotten into some heated arguments big time. I really think she may be bipolar, but I also think she has been spoiled and she is very immature. I don't know what is going to happen. Hubby said tonight he is fixing to change the locks and tell her that she can come and get her stuff and after that she can visit, but she will have to knock to come in, will not be able to come and go as she pleases. I said tell her one more time what we expect and tell her it is to take place immediately and let her know if not that is it she has to move out. All I know is I am tired of dealing with this, and I have been tired of it. As for earlier, just as I said, she is all appologetic and acts like nothing ever happened. Keep me in your thoughts and again thanks for letting me vent. I couldn't sleep again tonight and I have been up since 6:30 am, which is unusual for me, but I had a good day today, other than the incidence with daughter today. Just took my Xanax, maybe that will help.
Ibs, fibro, migraines, depression, anxiety, PTSD, GERD, past endometriosis; C-section, Choley, Liver resection, Total Hysterectomy; Cymbalta, Fentanly patch, Mobic, and Vivelle patch + PRN = Oxycodone, Phenergan, Mobic, Xanax and others.