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Date Joined May 2007
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   Posted 7/6/2007 6:57 PM (GMT -6)   
Just as a little background - i am 19, male, and after having EVERY stomach test done to see what was making me sick, recently got diagnosed with an anxiety disorder, although they haven't named the disorder as yet.
My dad got taken into hospital a few weeks back, and although i was terrified for him, it MADE me get up and do things everyday which took away a lot of my worrying and depression because i was having to do things for myself and my brothers whilst my parents were away. I had far less bad days and thought to myself "hey maybe i will be well enough to go to uni this year after all". Despite feeling better then i had in 11 months, i still didn't dare go as far as the hospital to see my dad and he was great and understood competely, but it didn't make me wish i was with him any less.
I sadly lost my dad earlier this week but thankfully plucked up the currage to go in and be with him as he passed away. Today i had a bad tummy again, feeling very sick, even though its about 5 days since he passed away. The second i get the nausea i'm thinking "I will be ill forever and never get well. It can't be anxiety, it must be something chronic that they won't be able to cure and i will never have a "real" life or job or anything".
Does anyone else feel like this? The second things go wrong, your thinking all doomy and gloomy? I know they say "take one day at a time" but it feels like everyone i know is moving fast and having a great time, and i'm just having the longest, sadest year of my life.

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Date Joined Apr 2007
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   Posted 7/6/2007 8:05 PM (GMT -6)   

Dear Boxcastle,

Please accept my sincere sympathy at the death of your Father and I am so proud of you for going to the hospital to see him. You have just had a huge loss in your life so you will be feeling down and lousy.  You did well when you had to get out and do things.

Can you keep busy now as I am sure your Mom is going to need tons of support?  Keeping busy seemed to lessen your abdominal pain.

Your grieving too and let yourself handle that in your own way.  There is no time limit on when you must heal from a loss.  May your father be kept in a special place forever in your heart.

Gentle Hugs for you. sad



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Date Joined Sep 2006
Total Posts : 717
   Posted 7/7/2007 10:31 AM (GMT -6)   


I am so sorry to hear about your father.  I agree with kitt, you have to be gentle with yourself for a while since you've just experienced alot of stress and emotion.  It's normal to feel more anxious and have your symptoms more intense right now. 

As for the doom and gloom thinking, yes I've been there...many times.  It's hard to stay positive and happy all the time when you feel lousy inside.  Are you in therapy?  That might help you at this point.  Learn as much as you can about anxiety, by reading, therapy, etc.  Try to keep busy as that seemed to help you...kind of shows you that if you don't dwell on your symptoms that you feel better.  Alot of anxiety is created by dwelling, thinking negative thoughts, etc.  Keeping busy doesn't allow for that to happen. 
Just be nice to yourself now and like Kitt said allow yourself to grieve as long as you need too.  Keep posting here too, everyone is so supportive.
Again, I'm sorry about your father.

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Date Joined May 2005
Total Posts : 280
   Posted 7/7/2007 12:20 PM (GMT -6)   
I'm so sorry for your loss. You will be in my prayers. Please let us know if there is anything we can do for you.
As far as your tummy, I went through something similar when I was about 18 years old. I had diarrhea for 6 weeks and was sick alot. Turns out it was irritible bowel (spastic colon) and I got on some meds that really helped.
God bless you.
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