I understand how you feel.
There is absolutely no doubt that anyone withdrawing from long-term benzodiazepines (Valium) must reduce the dosage slowly.
The decision to withdraw is also the patient's decision and should not be forced by the doctor.
The rate of tapering should never be rigid but should be flexible and controlled by the patient, not the doctor, according to the patient's individual needs which are different in every case.
Reference: C. H. Ashton, January 2007
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