This past year I failed school but i was there, I didnt work, and I used drugs. My life felt like it was completely off track but i didnt do anything to help myself, in fact the exact opposite.
A couple months ago my girlfriend broke up with me and I slowly started breaking down. We had decided to stay in touch and I started obsessing how to fix what we broke. I wanted her back so bad that i did everything i could, which obviously pushed her way out of my life.
Throughout the whole thing my mind was locked on it, I went back and forth between trying to figure out what was wrong with me and building myself up with inner strength which is something i definitely lost this past year. I basically drove myself right into insanity.
We talked I would see hope and then it would get destroyed, we talked again and same thing. Eventually it resulted in her changing her number, which woke me up.
The only thing is i cant believe what happened to me. I feel like an idiot now and I realize that I was being very selfish about trying to get her back, that i gave her no room to think. She was on antidepressants when we first started dating, she quit them and then started taking new ones, i think i intensified her anxiety. I never thought i was depressed, but after hearing about her anxiety and stuff I started to recognize anxieties and depression in myself.
I think i had a nervous breakdown during the breakup, but I dont understand bc i never was like this in my life. Everytime we stopped talking I would start to feel more complete, but i never wanted to stop talking. Right now it is at a situation where we no longer have contact and im beginning to feel more like myself again.
Does anyone have an Idea what happened to me or how i triggered a nervous breakdown? And when you have a nervous breakdown, but ya feel like your recovering are you? I dont ever want to feel like that again.
Everytime we fought I drank alcohol. Immediately after a fight i would apologize way too much, I would have 24/7 panic about what i said wrong what i did wrong. last week she wanted to hang out but i kept pushing it off and then when we made definate plans, i cancelled bc i was afraid of falling apart again. She said "this is why i think you have multiple personalities" I asked that we cut contact, but then i wanted to get back in touch. I felt bad she said she felt hurt. I ended up getting drunk and talking to her. i asked and she told me she hookd up with her ex. I became extremely upset over it and angry. We talked she called the next day and asked how i was feeling. i got ****** at her again and broke contact. I got back in touch with her, apologized and then txt her every hour for a while. looking back i cant understand why i was so impatient and impulsive, i was just hurting really bad.
She really was a sweet girl and very loving, but also she felt needy at times considering how young we are 22 and tryin to build our own futures. As soon as things got back to a steady feeling of friendship, but not too much i would feel better. I said some retarded stuff and i became needy. I was never like this. We only dated for about 7 months but we lived with each other and spent all of our time together. We lived together at school.
Eventually my friends tried to instill some common sense into me and reminded me that i had friends whom i never hung out with. So at times i decided i would give them my time for a couple of days, she was always upset about that and eventually started talking to her ex bf only to end up mostly back with him.
The breakup was two days b4 my birthday. Did a lot of things just trigger my breakdown? I mean the longer we stayed in contact the worse things seemed to become. Any advice would be great on What you think of why i acted incredibly thin skinned. I was trying desperately to fix something, but i couldnt handle the reality of it. Every single time i tried to move on, i would suck myself back into it on the little bit of hope she gave me. Thank you for your advice in advance.
I broke your post down into paragraphs to make it easier to read. Kitt :)
Post Edited By Moderator (stkitt) : 8/23/2007 7:30:20 PM (GMT-6)