Hey Good Buddy!
I hope this letter finds you in better condition than before. All I can say is, that I too am a 30-year old guy with little ones at home, and I too have all the symptoms you suffer from. It has been a long and hard journey for me, but I'll tell you what, it has been a learning experience. I have learned that life is precious, and that folks like us are special. Since they have started, I have made a vow to better take care of myself, as diet, exercise, and sleep play a major role in panic attacks. Unfortunately for most of us "anxiety heads", a good night's sleep is hard to come by, especially with all the stress that a job carries. It often seems like work in general just makes it worse, I mean for example my schedule. I have to wake up at 5:30am, get ready and be at work by 8am, mon-fri (by the way, I barely make it to work leaving that early) then I have to deal with some of the most ignorant, vile, and stupid co-workers that have ever existed. From the moment I clock in to the second I clock out, my day is filled with misery and panic, but I dare not show it for risk of losing my job, so I just swallow hard and take it, which is probably the worst thing in the world to do. I have a wife, I have babies, I have bills. Anxietry does suck dosent it?! Me personally, I'm taking steps in finding another job much closer to home, hopefully with a good company and quality folks working there.
There is always hope my friend--anywhere the human spirit dwells God is with us. I am not an overly-religious nut, and I am not here to preach to you about any particular diety, but I just would like you to know what is what. There is a GOD, believe it or not, and he's with us through the thick and thin. Sometimes it seems like "O.k., that's it man, I'm gonna die now!", but it never happens, does it? I have always seen God as the greatest teacher and friend. So...treat him as such! I am sure in that past you have asked your buddies and maybe your parents for help...why not the creator of the universe? The point I'm trying to make is this; focus on the beauty and strength of God, be open to his love and guidance (it could appear from anywhere and anyone you see), and trust in him to help you in tough times.
Also my friend, trust in his precious herbal-creations of the Earth. Try and stay away from all those horrible meds that are out there, and stick to natural approaches and therapies; aroma therapry, counselling, massage, audio guided imagery, yoga, herbal supplements (chamomile, holy basil, valerian root, etc.) and meditation to name a few. All of them work, and all of them make you a better man, trust me bro.
Take some time out for yourself, sip some herbal tea, relax, take a nap, draw a picture, anything to get you in the chill-zone.
Take care my friend, and know that you are not alone in this. All my love and light to you and your family,